Saturday, November 27, 2010


Hello guys and whats up? I hope we are all chilling and relaxing this weekend, cos I am. Before I say ciao this week, I will like to say a big HELLO to our new members Chinny and sue's corrner.

All My followers: thank you for being supportive, with your comments and suggestions..

Now back to the topic of the day " Family"......yesterday I went to Covenant University in Otta for my little cousin's matriculation, it was a blast. As we sat down eating, gisting, taking pictures and laughing, I thought to myself " having a strong, close, loving, dependable family is one of the best things in the world. Secondly the joy in my cousin's face when he saw his family was indescribable. The feeling is inexpressable and not even money can replace that feeling....

Over the years I have learnt that a strong family is the bedrock of the society, and this is very true. Children brought up in stable, loving, dependable families grow up to be confident, ever ready to conquer any obstacle in their way.

Despite the extensive reports about the importance of family, a lot horrible things have been attributed to the family unit, like: " Brothers against brothers, sisters killing mothers, fathers abusing daughters...etc......

For me: " I will give anything to bring that feeling to the lives of my love ones, or anybody that comes my way.. What about you?

Notez bien:

I know that everything successful must have taken a lot of extra effort to get it that way. If we want a stable and fantastic family, we should start now to work at it. Sacrifice that extra time and pay your brother or his family. Give your sister the beautiful dress she has always wanted. Call even if it's just to say Hi or send a text message......

"These are the little things that mean the most in life"....

Take care and have a fantastic weekend.


Thursday, November 25, 2010

What Will You Do?

Hello everyone, I was listening to Oprah a few days back and she interviewed the son of Jim Jones and the sister of John Wayne Gacy and I thought to myself what would I have done if I was in their position?
Who are they?
A brief History:

Jim Jones was the leader of the Peoples Temple. The People's Temple was a religious sect, members about 80% were african americans. In November 18, 1978, Jim Jones was responsible for the death of 900 people. They were all poisoned to death. His son, Jim Jones Jr, who was the first African American boy to be adopted by caucasian parents, was saved because he was away playing basketball.

John Wayne Gacy also known as the killer clown, raped and killed 33 teenage boys and young men between 1972 and 1978...

My question?: How did the siblings, parents, relations feel about their own blood? John sister said that for a very long time she didn't tell anybody what her last name was. She said that when she first heard about what her brother (John Wayne Gacy) had done, she couldn't believe it. Her brother didn't show any sign of it. She said that he had always been a loving uncle to her children.

They both said that they had learnt to forgive them, but that it wasn't easy.
My question:
When society found out, how were the treated? For these 2 men had committed gruesome acts that made American history, acts that the world will never forget.

But they said that they finally forgave them. Like I said a while back this forgiving thing isn't easy but it is the best it is the best. If I try to put myself in their shoes, which I don't want to do, will I ever have been able to forgive them for what they did?
For the shame the brought to our family?
For the pain of knowing that they will always be remembered for the terrible havoc they caused the world.

I ask the question again what will you do if you where in their position?

Monday, November 22, 2010

A little Something to Share

A friend of mine sent me this message and asked that I share it will everybody, of which I promised him I would.....I hope you enjoy reading it:

"A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by is feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind please help". There were only a few coins in the hat. A man was walking by, took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new word. Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people where giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the signs came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?" The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way. "I wrote: "Today is a beautiful day but I cannot see it". Both signs told the people that the boy was blind. The second sign told people that they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

Moral of the story: "Be thankful for what you have...Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively. When life gives you a 100 reasons to cry, show life that you have 1000 reasons to smile. Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear. The most beautiful thing is to see a person smiling.....And even more beautiful is knowing that you are the reason behind it!!!

Notez Bien: " I hope after reading this it touched you like it touched me. Everyone has just a life time on earth, make it worth a life time by making someone laugh.

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Another Sunday

Hey everyone, sorry i have been out for a while. been a bit busy.
first I want to say congrats to my very good friend Ehimen.......
Congrats your wedding was wonderful.
Secondly I will like to say welcome to our latest member.....Thank you for being a follower.

Now how can I start...This weekend was a very busy one, so busy that I need like a week's rest..loll.
But the good thing was that I had fun. saw some old friends I hadn't seen in a long time. My parents were so happy to see me and once again, I was being treated like a baby..loll.

The new week has come lessons learnt:" I have learnt that opportunities are out there, you just have to tap into it and please don't let it pass you by.
One thing I don't want to ever happen to me, is to look back at my life and heave a deep sigh sigh of regret. must make a mark in this life and die a fulfilled woman.
Take care of yourself and will see everybody later.


Sunday, November 7, 2010

Another Sunday

Hi guys today church was fantastic. I learnt to love God with all my heart. lol I am not saying that I have immediately acquired the virtue but I am practicing it and hey I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me"....
A new week has started, today is my parents 29th wedding anniversary and I am like whoa!!!!! time waits for no man, when did they marry, have kids and now 29 years...whoa..... It just got me thinking my birthday will be in 3 days, on wednesday. HMMM!!!! My birthday is usually a day I look back at my life and say to myself what have you done with yourself.... What goals have you achieved.... A lot just goes through my mind but I know that I will make it and I am strong not weak.
This week my goals are: I will be the best wife to my husband. I am working at making my marriage work for the better...Hey don't get me wrong, I love my marriage but I want it to be better, always get better not go dry....loll..if you know what I mean...
2. I will be good to people, avoid conflicts and try to give alms to the poor.
3. Go out of my way to help someone in need.
so help me God.

P.s: " I hope this week you have goals, like mine or similar and will work towards achieving it...
shhhhh don't tell anybody I am going to shop for my birthday....Whoa go spend the money girl....
Chat later...

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Advice To A Dear Friend

Hi people!!!! Today will like to say a big welcome to UgoDre Obi Chukwu and Mbabazi of Uganda. Welcome to the secretlilies family and I am so happy that you have become one of us. I love your blog Mbabazi and I am so excited, maybe because you are a follower all the way from Uganda..loll. This is an example of the biens of transformative technology.
Thank you once again and to the followers of secretlilies, thank you for sticking with me.

Also before I forget: a special thank you to my hubby for taking out time to read my blog, even though you still haven't become a follower (loll), I am pleased.
I love you.

Now the gist for today.... something happened between a close friend of mine and I. Something hat caused a dispute. Will I say I was at fault? No I wasn't for if you ask me she was.

For something so little she took it to the extreme and when I say to the extreme I mean to the extreme. For instance because of this little episode she has concluded that I don't love her. How can she when all I do is try to make her do the right thing... I know you will I God? But HEY what kind of friend am I who never speaks the truth?

Why do we flare up? is it because we are genuinely angry or is it because we are actually angry at our selves?
Why do we always misunderstand what the next person says?
Why is it that when the HUBBY wants to watch a game, instead of being with us, we feel that HE doesn't love us?
Why must we always allow the devil to play with our minds, when we know that all he does is to destroy?
Why do we find it difficult to listen, to say sorry, to cry, to admit we are wrong? Why?

Genuinely in my work through forgiveness I have learnt that being the first to forgive, to say I am sorry, to admit that I was wrong doesn't make me any less of a man or woman, but shows the world that I am strong. i am a diva and I am a man.

I speak today with great concern in my heart, I wish my friend will stop and listen, listen to what people are TRULY saying about her, and then reconcile with herself that she can never be right all the time.

I wish she will just learn that in other to have fun and enjoy life here on earth, one has to try to live at peace with each other.
I wish she will learn that fighting is not the way. As much as possible avoid fights, and seek the path of peace.

Right now I am so scared for I feel deep down in my heart that if and when she reads this she will flare up again and tell the whole world what a bad friend I am...

Don't think like that my dear,
I love you this is why I am doing this.
I love you this is why i will tell you the truth
And lastly any friend that never tells you (my friend) the truth is not your friend.


Tuesday, November 2, 2010

A little Lonely

Hi guys don't mind me and the topic above, he is not around that is why I am seeking for attention...loll... Nothing really much to say but wishing you a lovely, fruitful, interesting and fulfilled new month. I love this month because hey....guess what it is my birthday month. I will be a year older on the 10th of this month.

Take care of yourself and enjoy this month for I sure will.

Notez Bien: put this in your calendar: " the interface is on the 13th of this month, it promises to be a very interesting and dynamic episode...
Theme: "Transformative Technology and the future awards: : Chris Uwaje and Bolanle Austen-Peters