Sunday, October 24, 2010

Another Sunday

Hi everyone, before I say anything more let me use this opportunity to welcome Seun Idowu & Ibiene Fubara into the family, thank you for being a follower and becoming a member of the secretlilies family.
Now back to another sunday: Today I had a mind blowing experience with God. I learnt that forgiveness is the key to moving on in future...even if this is true how then can one forgive, is it easy?
How is it possible to forgive the father that was never there for me. The father that cheated on me and my mother. The father that one could never trust, or the mother who dumbed me in the dustbin as a baby...How can I?

How is it possible to forgive the man that raped me when I was 8 years. How is it possible to forget about the whole experience. He says I should forgive him but how, because of him I cannot understand what men, sex or the world. Because of him I am sick and tired of people telling me that I have to let go, forgive, and it will be okay with me...I am sick and tired of men, they hurt you, in fact it is in their nature to hurt the women and children.... How can I really?

Life is just so unfair, how can the police man that killed my son be set free. They didn't even do anything about it. They only just changed his department and left me grieving alone. You see Gbenga, my son was my only hope. He was all I had after his father left us..How then could he just be dead like that? How could God just let him die? They said he was a thief, but my son can never steal, he was on his way to our shop to help me with our daily sales, when the police man picked him up. My son begged and told the police man that he was only just going to help his mother. The drugged policeman insisted that he was a thief, took him to the cell, one thing led to another, he was killed.... Now ask me how should I forgive this man?

This world is a broken place, there is a lot of hate in the world, betrayal, injustice. All these creep in and form as peoples characters, carrying their guilt, shame, hatred, hurt everywhere they go, inflicting the people around them... Psychologist try their best to help, but how far can they go.......

Listening to people, reading about their experiences and feeling their hurt, I know one thing forgiveness and letting go is so difficult. We have to forgive all those we feel have hurt us in other to become better people in life....

N.B: I am on the pathway to forgiveness, I can tell you sometimes I still want to keep the anger, revenge, but it is easier to forgive and let go... After all my goal in life is to be a better person and show love to all around me......
Take care and please join me in the pathway to forgiveness

Enough of these emotionally stuff its time to party...Yesterday was my husband's birthday and we had a lovely time...I even realized that I love my bobo so much, loll. The enjoyment still continues as tomorrow the 25th of October is my wedding anniversary.....2 years of a blissful married life...
Trust me when you marry the right person, you will blossom like a beautiful red rose.


Monday, October 18, 2010

Mary Kay Ash

Mary Kay Ash born May 12, 1918 died November 22, 2001.
The name Mary Kay Ash rings a bell in the cosmetics world. My fascination about this woman was her ability to take her dream, make it a reality that benefitted a lot of families. ( P.S.The company still benefits families even as we speak).
Mary Kay Ash is an american business woman and the founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics Inc.
How did she start her company?
After her failed marriage to her first husband, single mother of three, she went to work. Frustrated at work when she was passed over for a promotion in favor of a man that she had trained, she retired. With the goal to write a book to assist women in business, this goal later turned into a business plan.
In September 1963, she and her second husband started the cosmetics company with 5000USD (#765,00 i.e. #153= 1USD). Even though her husband died before the company started fully, it didn't stop her. Her son Richard Rogers filled in for her husband as they both got to work in building the company and the brand. Her dream to make business easier for women and give them opportunities to make extra cash, paid up in the long run. The pink cadillacs awarded to the top sales people were the most visible sign of the company's success.

Now listen to her golden rule: " a plan designed for women to advance by helping others to succeed. Mary Kay Ash advocated praising people to success.
Her slogan: " God first, family second, career third". This slogan expressed her interest that the women in her company kept their lives in balance.

Mary Kay Ash started her business at age 45..........Now this saying that a fool at 40 is a fool forever can this be true?
Hey hold on I am not saying that Mary Kay was a fool. What I am saying is that the notion that you cannot succeed in business or life when you have passed a particular age is not true.

As at 2004 Mary Kay Inc. was one of the largest direct sellers of skin care and color cosmetics in the world, with 200 products and 1.1 million independent consultants worldwide in more than 30 markets. sales for 2003 totaled a record 1.8billion at wholesale level dollars.

"The genius of Mary Kay wasn't that she created a particularly unique product, but that she so brilliantly created a culture that mattered to very important markets: the women she recruited to sell Mary Kay products and the millions of consumers who bought them". Extracts baby....loll... I love this woman...

The story goes on and on... but the most important lesson is that, she followed her dream. her dream of helping women, came to life.
She is also a symbol for women all over the world. " You can have it all. Your family, God, children and a career, but there must be a balance".

I leave you today with this words: "whatever your dreams are, visions, goals, you can achieve it just be determined".
To fulfill ones goals in life, one must pass through a lot of hurdles but the reward is when one has seen his goals come to life.
Take care and have a wonderful week.

P.S: My baby's birthday is in 4 days, I can't wait, I am off to the mall, must look good for him don't you think..loll..

Friday, October 8, 2010

I Am Still Waiting

Why do some people have to wait so long for miracles in their lives and some others don't.
Why do some people have to shed blood before peace can be established and some people don't.
Why do some people have children and some never have till the day they exit this earth?
Why is life so unfair that I was born into this godforsaken family and all around me silver spoon kids are everywhere.
Why is life so difficult especially for those who try to be morally right and smooth for the wicked.
Why must I be the one that must apologize when I am innocent.
Why should my child be the one to fail, what happened to the child next door.

The why's of this world are so many, some times it's hard to comprehend. Like today's topic says I am still waiting.
I know there are a million of us out there still waiting for our own miracles, thinking to ourselves: when will it come?
Often times the only answer you get is: my sister, my brother just have patience, everything that has a beginning must have an end..

I want to believe them, but when will that end come?
The expected end, when will it come? I am fed up of waiting, but what can I do?

From the books I have read, stories I have heard, everybody had a waiting period. Some waited for years some just for a few months, while some only for a few days. I know I have to wait but I prayed that my waiting period will be shortened.

I know on thing though, truly whatever has a beginning must have an end, and the nemesis of a man must come back to hunt him in life. Even though the wicked seem to prevail, I know that their judgement day will come one day. I just have to learn this virtue " Patience".

Never forget this " I am still waiting"...loll......

Sunday, October 3, 2010

Happy Birthday Nigeria

Nigeria just celebrated its independence about 2 days ago, october 1. Everybody has asked what have we done in the past 50 years. What developpement has been attributed to this great Nation? No good roads, no electricity, poverty rate is high, corruption rate is high, the educational system is failing. So what good thing has happened in Nigeria?

The good thing about Nigerians is that despite the struggle and frustration in the country the citizens strive to become better, to have a better and more comfortable life. According to statistics Nigeria is one of the largest world emerging power in the world.... Is this a good thing for us? Or are they just pulling our legs? The telecommunication sector in the country is one of the fastest growing in the world. How a country where the poverty rate is high.


A lot of the Nigerians work without pay. A lot of them leave on less than 300 dollars annually, that is about 40,000 Naira. Nigeria is rated one of the most corrupt nations in the world. Not until recently we were rated a terriorist country because of the attempted bombing of the Nigerian, 25th december.

But for me despite all these stumbling blocks, like I love to call them, I still have hope.

I have hope like Martin Luther King. One day I know that Nigeria will change.

I know one day my children will be proudly declare that they are Nigerians.
I know that one day, we will have uninterrupted power supply.
I know that one day there will be good roads all over the Nation.
I know that one day there will be an end to ethnic discrimination and strife.
I know that one day Nigerian products will be exported all over the world like Chinese products today.
I know that one day Nigeria will truly become one of the worlds strongest power, where everything works.
But till that day comes, I will not seat down and criticized Nigeria, instead I will try and do the best I can do for my Nation.
This is my solemn pledge so help me God.