Monday, February 28, 2011


Hi everyone I am so sorry for my the silence. This last few weeks has been long, busy and emotional for me. What triggered the emotional side of me was the death of my beloved uncle (my mother's younger brother).

Let me tell u a little about my mum's family.
My mother is the first born and only girl. She has three younger brothers. She was brought up in a house full of love. My mother and her brothers are very close. When one person sneeze everyone sneezed with him. They got each other's back. My mother, the ideal sister in law. didn't give her brother's wives any trouble and they all loved her.

With this little story I am sure you understand how close they are.
All the children, the nieces and nephews are also very close, and I am so close to my uncles, for they are like my second father, if you know what I mean.
In 2008 my uncle was diagnosed with cancer. He went to Switzerland, where he had a bone marrow transplant. He survived it and was told to come every year for a check, which he did in 2009 and 2010. Only for him to become ill again after christmas. Without hesitation he was sent to India, where he died. In fact the week he died, he was to be discharged from the hospital.

I have asked God a lot of questions: "why do bad things happen to good people?"
Why is it that it looks as though the enemy has won the battle?
Why did he have to die so young at age 54?

Well I know he is in a better place but at least he should have stay with us, with his family, his wife and his son longer...
He had some many dreams, a lot of things he wanted to accomplish but he cannot, for he is no more...

I have decided to do a lot of things in this life, whether I can finish them or not I will try
1. I will try my best to fulfill some of the dreams he had(My uncle) a family holiday in one of the islands where all the uncles, aunties, nieces and nephews will come together and have fun.
2. I will try and be there for his son for he is family and very dear to my heart.
3. I will learn to play a musical instrument ( learning to beat the drums) in memory of him, for my mother (who had always wanted to learn to beat the drums but because of the times she didn't learn and finally for myself, for I have fallen in love with the drums.

Life is so short and one never knows...Please all that you have decided to do, start it now, even though you don't accomplish all, but at least you will be satisfied that you tried.

Do take care and chat with you later.


  1. Im so sorry to hear about your loss, im sure he'll be smiling down on u when you begin put some of those plans into action. God rest his soul and comfort you all. Amen.

  2. Sorry about your loss Phiri. God rest his soul and comfort you and yours.

  3. Oh Ibifiri. So sorry to hear about your uncle. I feel you so sincerely cos I had an uncle that meant the world to me. When he died, I felt like I had lost my mom all over again for he was her favorite brother in love. And my favorite uncle. I love the things you are planning to do in memory of him and for youself. I wish you all the best........I too, write now.....and when I do, I do it in memory of my uncle....somehow.....

    Pele of my fav quotes in times like these? 'To live in the hearts of those who love you is not to die....'. So you uncle is not dead....he lives you......cos you love him

  4. @P.E.T.Project tanx dear.
    @The Ladybird really appreciate.
    @DesperateNaijaWoman thanks dear i sure will do those things by the grace of God.. Good to know you write cos of least i don't feel weird..loll..
    Really appreciate the comments, very dear to my heart. tanx all..

  5. Omg thats so sad. :(
    i'm so sorry for your loss. he's in a better place now.. life is really so short!

  6. I am so sorry for your loss. Your uncle was blessed with a loving and caring niece and he will still be with you in your heart. Please take care of yourself.--Inger

  7. It's so sad when you lose someone close to you. Take heart dear, time will heal all wounds. Try to focus on the good memories and know that he's in a better place. xx

  8. Sad, but in the last 2weeks,
    the number of people i know who has passed on is begining to scare me. Anyway take heart
    ... may his soul rest in peace

  9. Phiri! We have said it all on the gorup chat, I can only pray that God help you achieve your dreams...even as you begin to act on them today...and remember, for every death we experience, God knows best, we dont get it o, but He must know what He is doing. Take heart, love.

  10. im so sorry youre going through a hard time, Find strength in knowing that God has plans bigger than now or what you see. thankful to God for your own life and the chance to do the things you want to do.

  11. Phiri, i sensed all was not well and thats why i asked but when you said you were fine i didn't want to push.. Now i know.. Sorry for your loss. We should meet up soon.
    It is well even in a well.

  12. Mbabazi, chinny,zouzou, canyon girl, neks2u, chizy k, kitkat.....Everyone thanks for the encouragement....I feel strong. I feel i can conquer the whole world cos of these encouragements..

  13. So proud of you 'Ibifirifiri' (my pet name for u). Keep up the brilliant work on your blog.
    Aunty F