Long A'waited Wedding Anniversary Post

Hello everyone as you all know my time isn't mine any more, I have a madam that dictates what I do. lol, but I can't just stop my life right, so I have to device a pattern around her.

Anyways just to let you know that I have begun writing again officially. I can't promise regular updates on my blog but I will definitely try. I will also check your blogs out whenever I have time and leave comments if I can. (do bear with me).

Now back to the story: so on the 25th of October was my wedding anniversary. 4 years ago I walked down the aisle and said "I DO" to Mobolaji Ayodeji Kamson.

Have I enjoyed the marriage: yes I have.
Has it been smooth all the way: no, nothing is actually. Everything has it's ups and downs.
When I hear other ladies talk about their marriages and how they are just there for their kids, I have to say thank God.

Do I take Temi for granted: yes I do, and I must learn to stop that, cos he is a very special person and dear to my heart.

When I first got married I wanted to have kids right away, Temi was indifferent, but I wasn't, after all I had heard stories about Yoruba's being very nosy and always in some one's business. So like every new bride I was a little frightened.

By the second year we had a major set back, Temi had to leave the 9 to 5 rat race and join the "I have to own MY OWN business band wagon", I supported him, even though in my head I felt he must be crazy. As the months past, the word we are on a budget, became our slogan. Since we were on a budget my business had to be on a hold.

So every time someone asked me what I was doing I will try to change the topic.(Okay fine I should have gotten a job right)?
I did try to get a job, but for what I was looking for I didn't find. I wanted to be a radio personality and I still want to be (so if there is any availability, please just let me know, thank you).

By the end of the second year our car had packed up and we had to depend on one car, which wasn't really good. It looked very nice on the outside but had wahala on the inside, (if you know what I mean..)But you know: "what we stood together". I still hadn't stopped worrying about the babies not coming as planned.

Anyways to cut the long story short in this 4 years, being married, Temi and I have become closer. Looking at it now, I know that if Yosola had come immediately, we wouldn't have been able to build this bond we have now.

So as the phrase goes everything works out for good.

I start another phase of my life, first of all I am a wife, I am a mother, I am a writer and then I am an entrepreneur.

My daughter taking her time in coming taught me patience, a virtue I didn't have at all.

I have to go now.
I hope you like what you read..

P.S." contrary to the story I heard, my in laws aren't nosy....

Do take care of yourself and I hope you find love like I have.

Dinner on the 25th of October.
chei I still look chubby...anyways not to worry losing weight little by little....
Ciao

Happy Birthday Temi

Hi whats up everyone? I can see everyone has been interested in my motherhood journey. Loving the comments and don't worry will continue to update you all.

Anyways today is my darling's birthday, he says I have given him the best birthday present ever that's our little girl Yosola, who by the way is 5 weeks old already. Wow I can say time flies. Let me chip this in, she is beginning to know the difference between night and day and not confuse it anymore, so I have started having to sleep for 5 hours straight in the night.... That is pure heaven.

Back to Temi's birthday. I will like to say that he has been there for me. He really has been my knight in shinning armour. You know all these stories about the woman in Africa handling the kids alone, cos it is the their job: this doesn't apply to my family. We live in Lagos Nigeria, and we both are full africans, born and bred in Nigeria, but I must say if I have sleepless night cos of the baby, Temi also has sleepless night as well. We take turns in feeding the baby, that's why I thank the good Lord for who ever invented the breast pump, and the electric one at that. It enables any other person other than the mother to feed the baby breast milk. 

I know this during my pregnancy journey which wasn't easy for me, emotionally, as I was always worried, Temi was there all the step of the way. I remember one day when I went for my doctor's visit as usual, this day I went alone. As I got to the reception, the receptionist asked me about my husband. She wanted to know why he didn't come along with me. It was then I realized that they had all observed the fact that he came along for my prenatal visits. 

On the 25th of this month, which is in two days is our anniversary, maybe as a writer I would write a small love note I am not sure about that, but I will talk more about the love of my life..

I thank God for giving him to me and I really appreciate it.. No complains at all. This is not a lie just for the cameras it's the truth.

So once again Happy birthday Temi

Bon anniversaire mon amour.

Je T'aime de tout mon coeur.

Ciao

Motherhood'

Hello dears thank you all for the comments will definitely post some more pix of my lovely bundle of joy.
Anyways I just had a few minutes and decided to put up this post. People ask me what is motherhood like and I tell them that I take it a day at a time. It's very hard: if I want to be sincere about it, but it is also interesting at the same time. Right now I am still at the stage of waking up in the middle of the night to feed the baby. Men!!!!! losing a lot sleep. The good thing is that I have Temi helping me, but it is still hard. We have to take turns in changing diapers and feeding Yosola.

Then the fact that I really can't just jump up and start traveling to Jericho, is another realisation for me...No!!!!! those days of having a feeling n following it without looking back-----OVER. Like Temi will say: parenthood is a full time job

I said I was going to be strictly baby friendly, but after three weeks of my daughter's arrival I am thinking this plan ain't going to be easy at all. Nobody told me about cracked nipples or the pains, that one has to endure while breastfeeding. Men!!!! I must say motherhood isn't for children. Oh well I still love the experience and I am learning everyday.

Truly motherhood isn't for the fainthearted. You have to want to be a mother before you actually become one. Looking back I thank God Yosola took her time coming. I am a lot more mature, and can handle a lot more.


I have to go now cos I hear my daughter crying, it's meal time and mama is exhausted but happy at the same time.

N/B: " next on my agenda is to think of how I am going to loose the pregnancy weight and get my tummy back to shape.. this one isn't easy at all. but will see how it goes.

Do take care and have a lovely day.

My Journey Through Motherhood

Hi DEARS, I have been kinda incommunicado and that is cos I just became a new mama. My lovely daughter was born on Monday the 17th of September, by 11.22 a.m. She weighed 7pounds, even though she came three weeks earlier.

Anyways I learnt a lot about being pregnant. From the mood swings to the absentmindedness or is it the cravings or the dreadful heartburn anytime you have to eat something. I can remember the first doctors visit it was exciting and incredible. I remember Temi and I couldn't contain our excitement. I also remember when we went for a scan and found out that it was a girl, we were very over joyed, already picking her name. Her father already planning her life: how she will take over his buisness, become an entrepreneur etc...lol.

Anyways when my labour and contractions started I couldn't believe it. The pain was indescribable. Really: women do try. I now look at my mother who had four kids with a different mindset. For me I don't think I can go through pregnancy four times: it ain't easy. Anyways after feeling like superwoman, (I had initially said I wasn't going to have an epidural). When the pain started I didn't need a soothsayer, to tell me to call out for the epidural. But sadly they couldn't give it to me, cos my platelets, (what is responsible for blood clot in the body was low so they). Men!!!! I did say all the prayers in my vocabulary till I could pray no more.

Then when it was finally time to push, It became another story:."I am like why didn't any body tell me about this. The first three times I pushed, I was told that I had to push harder, cos the baby's heartbeat was dropping n if by 12 I hadn't given birth they were going to do a C-section. After all the pain I was going through I couldn't afford to go for a C-section. With the nurses, my auntie, Temi's cousin and my mother encouraging me, I was able to push.

The joy of motherhood is seeing the baby n realizing that everything is okay n the baby is fine.

After birth story will come soon. I have to run away as I am trying to adjust to motherhood. Its a learning process.

P.S. "I must say Temi was really there for me. I couldn't have done it without him. Now he has taken it upon himself to spoil our daughter, I just have to be the disciplinarian in the family...lol.

Do take care of yourself n have a lovely day.

Pix: My daughter when she turned 8days old. her name: Oluwafayosolami Tamunoibitomie Olive Kamson aka Yosola.
2nd pix: My lovely family: "Temi, Ibifiri aka me and Yosola Kamson.

The Godmother Of Cocaine Gunned Down/Griselda Blanco

About a week ago, I saw this head line on yahoo page and thought it interesting. For me I had only know about godfathers and drug lords not godmother of cocaine, so I googled as I always do, for more information. Lo and behold, a woman named Griselda Blanco born on the 15th of February, 1943 in Cartagena Colombia, was known as the godmother of cocaine. Well she was gunned down, September 3, 2012 in Medellin, Colombia at age 69. She even did live long for a world with so much violence attached to it.

You will not believe that this lady had four kids, today only the last of her sons, which she named Michael Corlene in tribute to the godfather trilogy, is alive. She had these kids for her three husbands, whom she ended up assassinating. According to the DEA she was responsible for 250 murders potentially including three of her husbands. Even though she was arrested and served almost a decade in jail, they couldn't pin any murder to her, as the evidence was being tampered with. So after a decade of being in jail she was released, even though she was still running her drug cartel from her prison cell. It was said that she would kill anybody that tried to double cross her, in fact she killed for whatever reason and wasn't sympathetic about it. She was an inspiration in the drug world and was making close to $8 million every week in cash.


I will not tell a lie, when I read about Griselda a part of me was impressed or should I say amazed. I guess all the emotions ran through me. For me I thought for a woman, she really did succeed in a male infested organisation. Also I always will attribute the wild life of drugs and killings to men, but here is a woman who was called the godmother and was feared by both males and females alike.

Anyways after reading her history I was shocked that she grew so cold hearted within years of her being born into this world. Her first murder was committed when she was 10 years old in Colombia, she had an abusive mother, as well. By age 14 she had gotten into prostitution,etc.

If I could have had an interview with her I would have asked her whether it devastated her when she found out her sons were dead (drug related deaths). I would ask her, how she could kill her three husbands? Didn't she love them? The fathers of her kids, cos they doubled crossed her? and still live to be 69.

 Well I guess determination is the key to everything. But I will not do anything that will jeopardize the lives of my kids or other people.

N/B: Just thinking what it would have been like if Griselda was a female advocate, fighting for the rights of women? She would have been a formidable force.

Let me know what you think. Do take care of yourself and .have a lovely day.

Ciao.

Democractic Convention

I am sure every one has heard a lot about the current Democratic convention going on. Even though I try not to get into politics, I have found myself drawn to it. I love the speeches so far, I loved Castro's speech. I loved Michelle Obama's speech, Joe Biden, President Bill Clinton etc.

One thing I have found out, is that a lot of these speakers have one thing in common, they have gone through a lot of challenges at one point in their life. I didn't know until today that Vice President Joe Biden lost his first wife and daughter in a car accident when they were going to get Christmas tree.That must have been traumatic and to think that he was able to pick his life back up, get back into the system and then fall in love again to a wonderful woman, who took care of his kids.

Castro's speech was so touching. I felt goose bumps all over my body as he talked about his grandmother's journey to America. How she came to America as an orphan, how she slaved, cleaning houses in order to make a better life for her daughter, who went to college. How she prayed everyday for her daughter to give her a grandchild and she was blest with two grandsons. How she taught herself how to read in English and in Spanish...
Wow.. I was so touched. Hearing all these stories I really don't have an excuse in life why I shouldn't succeed in whatever I am doing, don't you think?

These stories have made me realize that everybody going to the top had to go through one hurdle or the order, thats just the circle of life. Yours may be different from mine, but it is there to make us stronger and be encouragements to people.


P.S. " I have finally bought a note book and a pen and I have began writing my short story. I hope to be able to finish it soon.Ii actually want the book to be a collections of short stories. Right now I have three stories, as I write I may have one or two more stories, who knows. I hope to get this one out there and published as soon as I am through. I hope I  make it, cos I just have to come out with a book before the end of next year, if not I will stop telling anybody that I am a writer...lol.

P.S. (again).. I wish our politicians will be as affectionate as the American Politicans and their spouses. Imagine Michelle introducing her husband to the whole world as the love of her life"....Awwww I am such a romantic.

Anyways do take care of yourself and have a lovely day.
Ciao 

Marketing and Giving

Hi folks!! Hope everything is k.
Today I decided to deviate a little bit from the inequality in Nigeria and talk about business.

Watching daytime TV in America has made me realize that Americans can advertise. OMG... This even makes me remember a comment Myne whitman posted. She said that her mother complained about the same thing. Even though it can get tiring, it baffles me that big companies like Walmart, Macys, Cocacola etc, make sure they market their products. Why do they spend millions of dollars on advertisements, when they are one of the strongest brands in the world?

 I think the reason is that they don't want you to ever forget that they are there/around. They want you to know that they will always be around if they can afford it. They try not to let it get into their heads that they are to big to be pulled down. This is a very good lesson for new business owners and vice versa. No matter how big your company is never forget to always be out there. When you get to the top is it very hard to stay there, cos you have a lot of competitors.

Millions of companies and people want to get to where you are. This also goes hand in hand with talents and careers. Not because you were the best in your field last year, there is a garantie that you will remain the best next year. If you don't keep on improving yourself you will never get better, only go stale. I always say this:

Micheal Phelps says no matter the day, the time, the whether, if its a holiday etc, he makes sure that he must swim. Talk about improving oneself. 

My question: why is it that when Nigerian companies stop advertising when they presume they have become the big names in the industry? In fact they actually think that they have arrived and leave the adverts for the smaller companies. Like I am trying to remember the last time a Nigerian product was in my face.

Secondly I will like to talk about giving: " I hear that in America as kids you are taught to give. What a lot of the companies have in common is giving. A lot of them give to society, help the community etc. You hear stories of children getting scholarships to go to schools, or companies rebuilding a community that was just stuck down by fire, hurricane etc.

My question: why is it difficult for companies in Nigeria to give. Will it hurt if 5o children are given scholarships? Will it hurt if a whole community is rebuilt and maintained properly, after all the resources you get, you get it from the community. I remember how long it took, The oil company to give the bonny community 24/7 electricity. Fights between the Nigerians that only wanted to get the money into their pockets, the companies wanting to run away from it.....

Lesson learnt: " no matter how little, one should give, and one should start now. Cos its a circle. Once you give you receive.
It's time Nigerian companies start giving. Its time we forget about our government and work to make our nation better.

I hope I didn't blab today, but passed the message across.

P.S: "please this is not a means to insult any company. We all are guilty of not giving, from our governement-compaines and citizens. And I will like to use this opportunity to say thank you to the Nigerian companies who have started giving back to soceity.

N/B: there is a garage sale on the 15th of September, 2012
Venue: Bibi's cottage, Admiralty way, Lekki Phase 1,
Items for sale: Vintage items clothes, shoes, accessories, books and so much more.
Time: 10 am.
All proceeds go to Bethesda Child support Agency and other Charitable causes.

Please if you are in Lagos and free do go and buy something. Your purchase will help a child.

Ciao