FUN

What exactly is the meaning of fun?

According to my computer, fun can be defined as : enjoyment, amusement or lighthearted pleasure.

Well from this definition I can comfortable say that for the past 1 month I have had the pleasure of experiencing these : enjoyment, amusement and lighthearted pleasure...lol.

From the magnificent experience of tasting the wisdom of John C. Maxwell to the roller coster adventure ride of Michelle Mckinny Hammond the relationship specialist, I can proudly say that I have stepped into the month of August a better person, a better leader...(lol, abeg help me oh, I am blowing my trumpet....hahahaha).......

The must important thing about life is that one can have fun and learn.

I have learnt (while having fun), that it doesn't take a title to become a leader, it takes being a servant to become one.

I have learnt (While having fun) that a leader is a leader by example.

I have learnt (while creating fun) that if you cannot have a good relationship with your friends, you will not have a good relationship with your marriage.

I have learnt (while generating fun) that relationships demand a lot of things from us.... like....patience, love, tolerance and above all forgiveness......

Now you can see why I said: that I stepped into this month with every necessary tool. Omo come meet me for lessons...loll.. ..

If I practice all that I have learnt I will be a better person

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Notez Bien: now I will like to tell you a little secret...I have secretly been holding a grudge against some of my friends...its like they don't remember I exit anymore....

As I drop my pen, I am going to call them to harass them...haba why haven't you called me? I am still alive oh....lol...

Life is better that way don't you think?

Take care of yourself and learn to spot the fun in every situation

Ciao

NEW MONTH

August is here and with it comes some apprehension. The year that just started has almost ended. In a bout of uncertainty you wonder, what are your accomplishments thus far.....

Maybe something good will come, wrapped up in a present box, but

waiting is not an option? How patient can one be.

Well let's just wait and see

Or should I?

Or Shouldn't I?

Maybe I should just rebel and do what is in my heart.

But it will hurt them.

Hmmm!!!!! I cannot help it, its for my own good, not theirs.

Well I will try, I just have to.

Nobody can see it, only me.

I will just hang in there and wait....

Sometimes we are faced with a dilemma, confused about what to do....

You are not alone, I feel like that sometimes, but then I know its only for a while.

Like the song that says "I will get there, I will get there someday", I will scale through.

Despite the ups and downs, enjoy this month,

for it is going to be a month of wonderful adventures...

Ciao.

OPPORTUNITY

Hi fellows, in the space of one month I will be talking about opportunities and its importance in our lives. Sometimes I may use real life illustrations, sometimes just words of encouragement, sometimes something that will serve as an eye opener for opportunities. I hope that every word I say, will make a meaningful impact in your life.....

Now enough of the talk, let's get down to business......today I am so excited because I am going to meet, for the first time, the writer and the relationship specialist "Michelle Mckinney Hammond... I can't wait for that. I love her books especially, " The Power Of Being A Woman". Sorry guys, I am not being a feminist and the book isn't either, I strongly recommend you buy it for your female friends, its a blessing".......

Before I drop my pen, I will like to leave you with these words......." someone once told me......every man gets his opportunity in life, usually wrapped in something funny and most of the time unattractive. What makes the difference is one's ability to be able to decipher it and use it for ons's good.....

Extracts From The Daily Manna of Dr Chris Kwakpovwe, 30th July, 2010

" I asked for Strength and God gave me Difficulties to make me strong.

I asked for Wisdom and He gave me Problems to solve.

I asked for Prosperity and God gave me Brain and Brawn to work.

I asked for Courage and God gave me Danger to overcome.

I asked for Love and God gave me Troubled people to help.

I asked for Favor and God gave me Opportunities.

I received nothing I worked for.....

I received everything I needed.....

A little story to add to this....... " for the past 5 months I have been looking for a french, french person to practice my french with. I wanted it so desperately, because I didn't want to lose my flow of the french language. Everyday I begged God to give me a friend, who was french. Everyday I asked around for a french community. Everyday I searched the internet looking for someone, anyone who could speak french with me.....

Then yesterday evening, lo and behold, two men walked into the reading room, one white and the other an african, and they were both speaking french. Here was I sitting down, staring at them, with my mouths wide open. I tried to psyche myself to get up and talk to them... I was still psyching myself till they left. And you know what; the men were even polite enough to ask me a question, ( but of course in english...lol...)...... Imagine that.......An opportunity lost.....

I have asked for a long while and he gave it to me, but I shied away from it.......A lot of us are like this, and we wonder why things don't work for us.....

Now I am back to square one looking for, begging for and praying for yet another opportunity to get a french french friend.

Notez Bien: Don't lose yours this weekend. Have a great weekend.

I DID IT

Time was ticking, my hands sweaty, no courage within, but I knew I had to do it, I just had to do it. Even though it was going to hurt me. Even though I was going to make some few enemies along the way, I just had to do it, it was for the best.

Walking down the corridor, I considered turning back, running away, after all, I had endured for a while and could still endure more. Why stop now?

But the voice within prompted me, reminding me of what my teacher in school once said "the oppressed will forever be oppressed until the day he realizes that he is too is a master, then he becomes the oppressor". I have to become the oppressor. I have to say no to this slavery. I have suffered for so long. I had watched the pain in my children's eyes for years and turned away pretending that it was just a phase and the hurt will go, but it never did. I have to stand up. I have to do something before I lose everything.

Tolu, my darling, my poor boy, my heart, no longer talks to me. He feels it's my fault, he had told me several times to just go away, to leave, but I refused. "What will people say ?" I thought to myself. I will be ridiculed amongst my circle of friends, but I didn't care. I would go on with it, I would leave him.

I can remember the way his eyeballs grew bigger because of the rage within him, I stepped back as usual, trying to protect myself from his rage, then suddenly I remembered that I wasn't alone, my friend was there with me.

There was no way he was going to touch me, not any more.

With the little dignity I had left, I walked out of the house, vowing never to return again.

I know it will not be easy, I know that life will be unfair, but at least I have my angels. At least they no longer hate me, I am their friend now, cos I finally listened.

I don't know what it going to happen, but I know for sure, I am never going back. I am never looking backward, I will just strive to do my best.....who knows life may smile on me again, but I don't want to bank on that............ Maybe marriage was never meant for me, I wish I had known, I will never had gone through this pain.

For now I can only say " had I known", but that is as far as I will go. I will make a life for myself come what may.

CONFUSION

Hi guys before I go into details, I will like to say a big SORRY to my friend EHIMEN for forgetting her birthday on sunday. I had a lot on my mind, I am very sorry girlfriend and I pray you forgive me. "HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY". Secondly I want to say thank you to a new friend, I just meet. I don't know why God brought us together at this time, but He sure knows what he is doing. Because I want to say that sunday, was one of the best things that happened to me.. Keep the flag high my dear.....

Now back to my confused state.... this doesn't always happen every time but, have you ever been in a situation where you are just confused? You don't know what to do? You don't know who to talk to? And it looks like the whole world is just ganging up against you?

Well this is the state I am in. I am confused, but then again I ask my self why? Wasn't I supposed to do all that I did?

Did I make a mistake along the way? What is it actually?

After fretting up and down, I have come to the conclusion: "I am going on a research rampage". All the people I have talked to say : " go on with the plan". I know this is a decision I need to make, it may hurt a lot of people, it may not, but I know it's the right thing to do.

I feel so awful, but I have to make that decision.

I feel so bad, but I know it's for the best

I feel so alone, but I know that no matter what, I will always have a FRIEND

I feel so afraid because I am scared of what people are going to say, but then I have searched my conscience and I know that I have done the right thing.

I am leaving now because it is time to take the decision, I don't know if I should let you know or not, but I will try.

I will keep you posted for I know you will console me when it burst.

PATIENCE

Hi dears, how are you?

I just want to say a BIG thank you to all my readers AND followers. Without you, writing will be a lot more difficult, THANK YOU.

For the past 2 weeks I have meet a lot of cool, creative people and I am wondering how can this be? People like this in Nigeria....hmmmmm!!!!

In the past 2 weeks I have learnt a lot of things, in my writing, my business and my marriage that I haven't learnt in over a year.

In the past 2 weeks I have been criticized so much that I have made up my mind to be the best in everything I do.

In the past 2 weeks I have learnt that I need patience for everything.

I have learnt that it is not about how many books or articles or journals or how much you have or earn, or your family name, or the connections you have, but about how well you do whatever it is you are doing.

I have learnt that patience is the key to every creative mind.

How can I be patient especially when I am looking at the ceiling and begging God to please send money down from heaven like he sent manna for the children of Israel in the bible?

How can I be patient when I want to see my books in print and tell everybody who is anybody that I am a writer and I have published a book? How can I? but :

I have learnt that it takes a bamboo 6 years to shoot out of the soil and 6 months to reach its full length. Why?

Good example of patience.........

Every successful man, woman, organization, minister, church, marriage, company, relationship etc takes years of patience and learning before it becomes the best.

2 weeks ago I was in hurry to get my book in print, but now after learning about the life of a bamboo, I am ready to wait.

It's not going to be easy for me because naturally I am an impatient person, but I am willing to learn.

I will wait...even if it takes me 6 years like the bamboo, I will wait and learn.

Food for thought: this week let's strike a deal...develop the ability to be patient, in everything you do and with everybody you meet. It will not be easy, especially with all that surrounds you, but it will come, little by little.

Notez Bien: I hope we are still reading our books.

Confession: " keeping my rule of 5 is the most difficult thing I have ever done, but I am trying..lol.

Why?

Have you ever be disappointed in your life? have you ever wanted something so badly but it never came?

i have asked why a million times and i haven't got a response...........

have you ever felt like a fool?

have you ever been taken for a fool?

have you been mistreated because you don't have money?

right now i don't know what to do.........

How can i trust somebody, with my work, with money with everything as a friend and then i get Slapped at the back, and all because of money.

Hey GOD i am broken down, beaten i don't know what to do.

Where will i get the money to redo it again.

Every night i seat down and look up at the ceiling, hoping that money will just fall down from heaven. or the problem will just go away.

cos i have tried everything.

Ah this one i am so hurt i don't know what to do to the person.

They say i should forgive, but how can i forgive, i preach about it, but how can i. forgiveness is the key to moving forward.

Whoever said that, should have told me that it wasn't easy.

because i just don't know how to forgive right now but i will try.

don't worry, i have cried, i have wailed and i have given up.

but i will do the work.

i will continue to do my best

i will just continue, please GOD help me.