A TRUE LOVE STORY

Hello guys how r u? I have missed you guys so much. I can't imagine how someone can get addicted to blogging... and I am loving every bit of it.

Today I will like to write a love story I read a while ago. This story is so dear to my heart as I am a romantic at heart.

A boy and a girl where speeding down down a road on a motor bike..

Girl: " I'm scared please slow down?

Boy: " No , this is fun!"

Girl: " No its not. Slow down

Boy: " Then tell me you love me!

Girl: " Fine, I love you. Slow down.

Boy: " Now give me a big hug?

the girl hugged him.

Boy: " Can you take my helmet off and put it on yourself. Its bugging me.

the girl does so.

Girl: " alright slow down.

Boy: " I love you babe.

In the paper the next day a motorcycle had crashed into a building because of brake failure. Two people were on it, but only one survived. The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that his brakes broke but he didn't want to let her know, instead he had her say she loved him and felt her hug one last time. Then he had her wear his helmet so that she would live even though it meant he would die.

Everyone deserves someone who would love them that much.

I hope you find your "Someone".

Do have a lovely day.

PS. " don't forget to grab a copy of Myne Whitman's novel " A LOVE REKINDLED".

Ciao.

Kemi Adetiba

Hello everyone.. you will not believe what happened to me.. I had finished typing and then was ready to post, all of a sudden my write up just vanished....

I mean it vanished into thin air...

Secondly I can't find the blogs I follow on my page. Where did they go to?

How frustrating can this be ehhen?

I am so pissed right now, but you know what? " this will not deter me from telling my story for today...

Kemi Adetiba, a young girl born of an Akwa Ibom mother and a Yoruba father.

Attended Atlantic hall secondary school in Lagos.

A law graduate from university OF Lagos, Unilag.

Becomes a DJ, MUSIC DIRECTOR, RADIO PRESENTER ETC?????

I am sure after a while she said to herself: "what's all this...I am dying inside not doing what I like..... throwing the stiff collar she flees LAW in search of her passion.

She is the only female Nigerian who shoots and directs music videos. She directed TY Bello's new song "The future". ( Please everyone should go on YouTube and listen to the song, I love it).

She has done so well for herself that she surprises even herself, I am sure. LOL. She is also DJ, can you beat that...

Now I am sure your are asking why am I getting all that excited.?

well I know if I had told my parents I wanted to be a DJ instead of a LAWYER they would have taken me for deliverance....lol

I know we all have some passion hidden inside of us... or maybe locked away somewhere, with the keys missing... I think it is time to unlock IT and let it fly.. Fly with it and see what life has to offer....

My secret:

" the first day I got on a plane I knew I was born to fly planes. I didn't want to be an air hostesses, I wanted to be the pilot. The more I flew, the more fascinated I became, but I was timid. I wasn't bold enough to tell my parents MY DREAM. I wasn't bold enough to defend my passion. I wasn't ready to get uncomfortable to achieve my dream. And then secretly I was scared that they will reject me once they found out that I was partially deaf. So in other not to face this humiliation, I killed my dream. I killed it so fast that you will never have thought that I had a dream....

Coming across Kemi Adetiba, my dream is rekindled. I don't know if I can be bold enough to go 4 IT, but one thing I know is this: I will try my best to achieve it. Maybe now, maybe in 15 years, but I will do it, even if I fly once in my lifetime...

I have shared my secret, what's yours?

What passion, dream have you buried inside of you. Maybe cos of society or the fact that women can't be found in that field, or a disability etc.

What is it?

Please let me know and together I am sure we can fulfill our dreams.

Ciao.

P.S : " don't forget to grab a copy of Myne Whiteman's new book: " A LOVE rekindled".

Grandma Moses

Grandma Moses didn't start painting until she was 75years old. In fact she actually started cos her arthritis pain wouldn't let her do needle work anymore. Married, she had 10 children, lost 5. Described as a woman who was strong willed.

At age 88 Madmoiselle magazine named grandma Moses a "Young Woman of the year".

For more information about grandma Moses check WIKIPEDIA....

When I first came across this story I was surprised. Could people really fulfill their dreams even when they have clocked 70?

What kind of determination did she posses?

Not only did she become a painter, she died at the age of 101 a renown painter, with beautiful works to her name.

As we celebrate mothers this month I will like you to do me a favor..

I know a lot of us have mothers, aunties, female friends, who have had dreams and have let them die maybe because of society, lack of encouragement or lack of funds etc....

We can encourage them to start whatever it is they have a passion for. Help them fulfill their destiny, their dreams. Show them that they can do it, with your strong belief in them.

Encourage them. Work with them...

For if grandma Moses could become a painter at age 75, our mothers can be anything they want to be, no matter the age.

I have vowed to help my mother fulfill her dream of having a school and a bookshop...

I don't know how its going to work, but I know one thing: " once there is life, there is hope.

Do take care and have a lovely day.

P.S: "My write up just got accepted for an international mag... Thanks to a special friend of mine....

SAYING a big welcome to the newest member of secretlilies..." nutritionalert".. I love the name. Thank you.

Myne Whiteman's second novel " A LOVE REKINDLED is out. Please grab your copy now.

APRIL/MOTHERING SUNDAY/A MONTH DEDICATED TO STRONG WOMEN ALL OVER THE WORLD

Happy new month and a BIG HELLO to the new followers of secretlilies...It gives me joy every time I check my follower's list and I spot a new follower. Thank you guys, I really appreciate.

Mothering Sunday is around the corner, if I am correct it will be celebrated this coming Sunday. I have decided to dedicate this month to dishing out inspiring stories and motivational messages from influential, strong interesting women, all over the world.

Today, I will start with Mary Kay Ash. From her book " the MARY KAY WAY", I will dish out some motivational extracts.

"Most books on leadership have been written by men-and for men. Although I believe women can learn a great deal from such books, I also believe it isn't possible for us to clone ourselves from our male counterparts, because we are different. Women can no more duplicate the male style of management than American businessmen can exactly reproduce the Japanese style. This is not to suggest that Americans and Japanese cannot learn from one another-they can and do. Similarly women gain considerable leadership know-how from men. By the same token, men can also learn much from women. To me, P and L doesn't only mean PROFIT and LOSS-it also means PEOPLE and LOVE.

People come first at Mary Kay-independent sales force employees, consumers and our suppliers. We pride ourselves as a company known for the people it keeps". Our belief in caring for people, however, does not conflict with our need as a corporation to generate a profit. Yes, we keep our eye on the bottom line, but it's not an overriding obsession.

Many view us as an enigma, but the MARY KAY success story is no mystery to me". This remarkable Company and independent sales force have succeeded not through " dog eat dog" competition so commonplace in "big business", but through sensitivity for the needs of others. We could never have grown to where we are today without the enthusiasm of thousands of women and a committed staff. Our secret is a unique leadership concept, based on the Golden rule, that allows fairness to flourish in business

My story begins with what others may regard as a conclusion. In 1963, before starting my own company, I retired after twenty five years in direct sales. I loved my work and as a national training director of a large corporation I had achieved many of my goals, but as I reflected upon my career I was still disheartened.

As a mother strives to protect her children, I wanted to help other women so they wouldn't have to suffer what I had endured.

Once I made my decision, I needed something to sell. I wanted a top-quality product-one that could benefit other women, and one that women would be comfortable selling. I also wanted to offer women an open-ended opportunity to do anything they were smart enough, and motivated enough to do.

After spending days and nights trying to think of such a product, it finally dawned on me one evening, while I was getting ready for bed-my skin care products. I had been introduced to them 10 years earlier by a local cosmetologist I had called on during my direct-selling days. Using formulas created by her dad, she developed creams and lotions for customers of her small, home operated beauty shop. So when the cosmetologist died, I bought the original formulas from her family. From my own use and the results I had personally received, I knew that these skin care products were tremendous; with some modifications and high quality packaging, I was sure they would be big sellers! And they did.

Every person is special! I sincerely believe this. Each of us wants to feel good about himself or herself, but to me it is just as important to make others feel the same way. Whenever I meet someone, I try to imagine him or her wearing an invisible sign that says: " MAKE ME FEEL IMPORTANT! I respond to this sign immediately, and it works wonders.

Hmmm I will stop here for now: will continue later...

Notez Bien: One thing that made me fall in love with this lady was her ability, her drive help, motivate, encourage and empower women.. Mary Kay Ash's slogan was : " God first, Family second, Career third"...

Ponder on these words and have a lovely weekend.

Ciao.

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF & GO FOR IT// IT HELPS TOHAVE SOMEONE ELSE BELIEVE IN YOU FIRST

Hello guys, I hope you are all excited as I am, that today is Friday..hurray. For the weekend I have decided to post two short stories that have touched me, ever so dearly...

Believe in yourself & Go for it

Tim Ferriss believed in himself. In fact, he believed so strongly in his abilities that he won the national San Shou Kickboxing titles just 6 weeks after being introduced to the sport.

As a prior all-American & Judo team captain at Princeton, Tim had always dreamed of winning a national title. He had worked hard. He was good at his sport. But repeated injuries over multiple seasons had continually denied him his dream.

So when a friend called one day to invite Tim to watch him in the national Chinese Kickboxing championships 6 weeks away, Tim instantly decided to join at the competition.

Because he had never been in any kind of striking competition before, he called USA boxing and asked where the best trainers could be found. He traveled to a tough neighborhood in Trenton, New Jersey, to learn from boxing coaches who had trained gold medalists. And after 4 grueling hours a day in the ring, he put in more time conditions in the weight room. To make up for his lack of time in the sport, Tim's trainers focused on exploiting his strengths instead of making up for his weaknesses. Tim didn't want to merely compete. He wanted to win.

When the competition day at last arrived, Tim defeated three highly acclaimed opponents before making it to the finals. As he anticipated what he would have to do to win in the final match, he closed his eyes and visualized defeating his opponent in the very first round.

Later Tim told me that most people fail not because they lack the skills or aptitude to reach their goal but because they simply don't believe they can reach it. Tim believed. And won.

IT HELPS TO HAVE SOMEONE ELSE BELIEVE IN YOU FIRST

When 20-year-old Ruben Gonzalez showed showed up at the US Olympic Training Center in Lake Placid, New York, he had in his pocket the business card of a Houston businessman who believed in his Olympic dream. Ruben was there to learn the sport of Luge, a sport that 9 of 10 aspirants give up after the first season. Almost everyone breaks more than one bone before mastering this 90-mile-per-hour race against time in an enclosed mile-long downhill track of concrete and ice. But Ruben had a dream, passion, a commitment not to quit, and the support of his friend, Craig, back in Houston.

When Ruben got back to his room after the first day of training, he called up Craig.

"Craig this is nuts! My side hurts. I think I broke a foot. That's it. I am going back to soccer!"

Craig interrupted him. " Ruben, get in front of a mirror!"

"What?"

"I said, 'Get in front of a mirror!' "

Ruben got up, stretched the phone cord, and stood in front of a full-length mirror.

"Now repeat after me: " No matter how bad it is, and how bad it gets, I'm going to make it!"

Ruben felt like an idiot staring at himself in the mirror, so in the most wimpy, wishy-washy way possible, he said, " No matter how bad it is, and how bad it gets, I'm going t make it!"

"C'mon! Say it right. You're Mr Olympic Man! That's all you ever talk about! Are you going to do it or not?"

Ruben started getting serious. " No matter how bad it is, and how bad it gets, I'm going to make it!"

"Again!"

"No matter how bad it is, and how bad it gets, I'm going to make it".

And again and again and again..

About the fifth time Ruben said it, he thought, Hey, this feels kind of good. I'm standing a little bit straighter. By the tenth time he said it , he jumped up in the air and shouted, " I don't care what happens. I'm going to make it. I will be an Olympian!"

Its amazing what happens to your self confidence when you get eyeball to eyeball with yourself and you forcefully tell yourself what you're going to do. Whatever your dream is, look at yourself in the mirror and declare that you are indeed going to achieve it-no matter what the price.

Ruben Gonzales made that declaration, and it changed his life. He went on to compete in three separate winter games in the luge-Calgary in 1988, Albert ville in 1992, and Salt Lake City in 2002. And he's currently training for the 2006 Torino Winter Olympics, where he will be 43 years old, competing against athletes half his age..

Whoa very long if you ask me, but worth it....

Stories gotten from Jack Canfield's book, my new hero... If you can, please buy his book.. " THE SUCCESS PRINCIPLES: HOW TO GET FROM WHERE YOU ARE TO WHERE YOU WANT TO BE", by Jack Canfield.

Do have a lovely weekend

Ciao

TITHING

A big shout out to my new followers you r welcome. I hope you have a wonderful time here...

Back to the topic for the day: "TITHING"...

I am sure everybody is going to say..here comes the preacher again....loll... Well, today will be talking about tithing from the circular world's point of view..(if there is anything like that..loll).

Still taking extracts from Jack Canfield's book, I was surprised when I stumbled on Principle 61 " Give more to get More"......

Principle 61, PAGE 415

"Bring the full tithes into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house; and thereby put me to the test, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you an overflowing blessing", Malachi 3:10"

Tithing-that is giving 10% of your earnings to the work of God-is one of the best guarantees of prosperity ever known. Many of the worlds richest individuals and most successful people have been devout tithers. By tithing regularly, you, too can put into motion God's universal force, bringing you continual abundance.

Not only does it serve others but it serves you as a giver, too. The benefits cross all religious boundaries and serves those of every faith-because the simple act of giving both creates a spiritual alliance with the God of abundance, and fosters the mind-set of love for others. Tithing proves in a compelling way that abundant wealth is something God wants for His children. In fact, He created a world where the more successful you are, there more wealth there is for everyone to share. An increase in wealth for an individual almost always represents an increase in wealth for society at large.

"Robert Allen, best-selling author of NOTHING DOWN & THE ONE MINUTE MILLIONAIRE, didn't always tithe. But after he'd lost everything and was down to zero, he said to himself, Wait a second. I've had so much money in my life. I'm suppose to be the guru who teaches people how to become rich. Where's it all gone? I must have done something wrong.

Eventually Bob worked his way back to prosperity. But along the way he learnt a valuable lesson: Either I believe in tithing, he said to himself, or I don't. If I believe it, I'm going to tithe every week. I'm going to figure out what our income is that week and write my check that week.

As he became a dedicated tither, suddenly a whole new world opened up for him. Though his debts were almost insurmountable, he became more grateful for what he had. Soon, new opportunities started flowing to him. Today, Bob says, he has so much opportunity it will take him 10 lifetimes to tap into it. He believes it's that way for all dedicated tithers.

Red light: time to stop: more stories later.......

Before I leave, I will like to confess one of my "sins"... I haven't been a regular tither, why I can not say. Sometimes I will tithe and sometimes I don't..."kinda eat my tithe"... but as I read this book it struck me, that if I claim I am a child of God and I don't tithe, why then do I expect the blessings of God.. The principles in the Bible are there for everyone to follow: "Buddhist, Muslim, Christian, etc if you follow the law of tithing the rewards will come to you......

I am taking Bob/Robert Allen's strategy I will tithe every week...

This one is drastic tithing oh, please God help me..loll...tears....but I am sure I can do it.

Do take care of yourself and have a great day.

Ciao.

My Personal Love Story

Hello everyone I decided that today is the day I tell my personal love story as I am a romantic at heart..loll...

Since I didn't do any love piece in February I decided that I should do this...

How do I start..well I will just talk....

When I finished University in 2006 I decided to work for a photo studio called "Proshots" in Port Harcourt. I applied and was employed for the post of a photographer...(yes I am a photographer, dropping my secrets little by little.. don't worry as you get to know me, you get to know my secrets)

I started working at the studio, it was hectic but it was beautiful. Learning about photography was a new world for me and I enjoyed the gift it gave me. The owner of the photo studio was a young bobo called Bolaji. He sure was tall, dark & Handsome, but I wasn't tripping and just saw him as a bloke (hmm did I say that). Being a photography guru and working at the same time as an engineer, he always made it his business to check the studio out after his day job. Always coming into the studio and asking me how my pictures were, teaching me at the same time...

My life very nice, interesting and lovely, by the way I had a bobo whom I had built castles in the air with. Months after I started working he broke up with me, cos he was cheating. Even though I decided to give US another opportunity he said he didn't want to, so I let it be... It wasn't easy at all, I just had to move and I found solace in my job which helped....

After months of working and dealing with my heart, my Oga started showing signs of something... I say oh boy wat's up? Until one day he spilled the beans.

He told me that he had been attracted to me from the first day he saw me, he just wanted to be sure that it wasn't just a crush so he had taken his time, observing me and waiting...

ahhh I say go abeg how can you say you are attracted to me and you want something more.. I work for you...

What will people say when I get promoted, which I was due for.

Moreover, go you are from Yoruba, I am Rivers, you are the first child and son, haba, your parents will want you to marry your own....

My dear I fought it until I found my heart beating anytime I saw him walk through the door. That moment I knew I was in trouble oh... me in love with my boss....

The more I fought it the more amused he was and he was loving every bit go it, for him, he wasn't ashamed or afraid to profess his love for me to everybody.

Oh and when he kissed me for the first time I said OH God hold me so I don't something I will regret... You see I was determined to wait till I got married and men that kiss almost blew my resolve, but I kept it all the same...loll

Enough of my long talk, I hope I didn't bore you...

The bottom line is that I married the bobo oh, my Oga, my boss and I have DONT regretted it...

H

e is the love of my life and he has made me see that Nigerian men aren't stiff, brutal, unromantic, selfish brute they are characterized by, but that they can be selfless, romantic, nice, soft, caring... cos of him I am confident doing anything I LIKE. He believes in my dreams. He believes I am a fantastic writer even though I haven't found a publisher to accept and love my work. He believes I am the best cook even though I hate cooking and subject him to Indomie every now and then (loll). He thinks I'll be the best mum in the world even though we don't have kids yet. He believes I am his best friend even though I don't act nice at times. He believes I will always be there for him, even though, sometimes things don't work out as he had planned. He believes I am a model even though I have to fight to keep my stomach from blotting out. Oh and I am the best dressed female he has ever meet, even though sometimes my sense of dressing my just consist of a polo shirt and a baggy jeans...

Oh I thank God I gave love a chance despite the awkward circumstances..

I hope you liked it...

For those who have a love story do share. For those who feel they can never have a love story, cos their life is messed up...that's so not true... I know one thing, there is always someone who will see through the mess and love you for who you are. Everyone in life deserves to be loved that is what I know..

Take care and have a nice day.