Thursday, July 28, 2011

My Thoughts

Hello and how r u?
thought to let u know my thoughts
I heard someone say this and I wanted to ask for your honest opinions...

1. Its not good for women to drink. Why? Cos it will affect them when they want to have children.
I asked: What about men? oh men, they don't have a problem. They don't go through the process of birthing a child..
Are you for real...." according to www.malefertilitycure.com " Alcohol is bad for fertility. Too much alcohol can affect the quantity of your sperm and it can dampen your sex drive".... So hello its bad for both male and females.
2. Women don't know how to drive properly especially when they drive on roads they are not familiar with..... From research I have observed that men are not good with directions, and they will never ask until the last minute.

3. Women shouldn't sleep in till 10am they should be up and about by 7am. wow!!!!!! This one for me it depends on what kind of job or life they live. I say if you have time to sleep in please do regardless of your sex.

4. When husbands give their opinion it should not be questioned? " In a marriage do we run a dictatorship? both of them aren't they partners.

In fact the list goes on and on and then I wonder do we still have a lot of the old mentality in us...
Just yesterday I heard of a couple who were on the verge of separating ..Why cos they didn't have any children and as always it was the woman's fault.. The man's people were already on their way with the second wife, the wife that could bear the grand children.

I ask myself when will this stop?
When will everyone have equal rights?
When will mother in laws leave their daughter in laws alone and know that they do not own their destiny?
When will mothers stop pressuring their daughters to get married even when they themselves regret their marriages?
When will not having a male child stop being an issue?
When will a single woman well past the age of 30 stop being looked at as an outcast cos she isn't married with kids?

It's so sad and I must say life isn't suppose to be this way. I don't think our creator, created anyone to be oppressed by his fellow man?

It's time for change, its time we learn.

I know I will become a mother in law some day, when I do, I will never interfere in my children's marriage. It is not my place. I have lived my life, it is time for me to let them live theirs.

Do take care of yourself and have a lovely day.
P.s. Please let me know what you think.. I hope I do not sound like a feminist..LOL

Now I have to go. The photography seminar is tomorrow and Saturday and I am the one cooking. I hate cooking but oh well the things we do for love..Right now the meat is on the fire...kissing my teeth...which i could go to bed right now...loll

Ciao

10 comments:

  1. Man, im still waiting on someone to explain to me what is supposedly so wrong with being a feminist. This entire post is feminist ideology and i see nothing wrong with that.

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  2. I hate to sound pessimistic but i'm not sure it will completely stop esp with our parents generation and the (permit me to say)uneducated society at large. It's up to us (i.e. those in our generation) to make sure that the trend doesn't continue with us. However, it doesn't mean we should stop speaking against it. Afterall a journey of a thousand miles starts with a step

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  3. the attitude change starts with the women themselves. some of them accept sub standard roles and positions and live out the myth that women are weaker. its a fast changing world and if one's sex will not count for much soon

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  4. I do me and i don't let anyone tell me how to do me, not even my parents (and i'm very obedient). My point is, a woman who knows her worth will stand her ground in the light of opposition and will put her trust in whom it matters most to, The Big G! Shikena! In-laws? They can hug transformer!

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  5. Whoever said those things should come lemme send him or her to school,as for MILs,I need one,I want to prove to her that there are good DILs but not stupid timid ones.
    About women driving,hmm,tell em to come and see me,I'm 21 but I drive better and faster than my dad,even better with an automatic,joor oh.
    Cook well ma,send some meat.Whoever said those things should come lemme send him or her to school,as for MILs,I need one,I want to prove to her that there are good DILs but not stupid timid ones.
    About women driving,hmm,tell em to come and see me,I'm 21 but I drive better and faster than my dad,even better with an automatic,joor oh.
    Cook well ma,send some meat.

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  6. Why did you spoil this amazing post with the disclaimer of being a feminist. I am one o! And I love this post. Tell me the answers when you have them. As for women oppressing other women, I shake my head.

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  7. Thanks for your comments..
    Lol Myne i am a feminist. I hate women oppression.
    And women that oppress other women i just cant believe it.
    @gretel i will post the meat. they liked the rice, 2day will be the last day. Lets see how it goes.
    @Chinny always be you thats the best thing in this world
    @ladyngo there is nothing wrong about being feminist. I went to buy SUYA and i asked why he had to types of pepper, one customer told me that one pepper is for men the other is for females. I couldn't believe it.
    @NIL thanks for your comments. Really appreciate all the comments.

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  8. What? You definitely just read my mind.
    Because of this kind of partiality that I decided that when I give birth to a child I won't do that nonsense my parents did when they were trying to teach me how to cook by saying "If you don't learn how to cook your husband will leave you"

    My reply to that has always been and who cares if the man leaves mschew... I will learn to cook cos I want to and not because of some bloody imaginary bloke in the future.

    I am a die hard feminist and I honestly don't care how I'm looked at for it. Can't help it...love your blog btw

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