The Yorubas

Hello guys today I am talking about the Yoruba tribe, I am married to a Yoruba man but I will try not to be partial. lol

Anyways I loved the comment, emails and face book messages I got from the last post about the Igbo tribe.. Nice one keep them coming guys cos its very encouraging.

The Yoruba's are known to be scholars. I find it so funny that I will go to a friend's house and see a picture of their grandfather or mother graduating from a university in the UK, in 1914 which was very rear at that time. (If you know what i mean)

Secondly I think they are one tribe that has the highest set of British Nigerians as a lot of them where born in the UK before the law was changed.

I find them also very enterprising as in that the Balogun Alhajas seat down on pots of gold if you know what I mean. They may not know how to speak English, in fact a lot of them just stick to the Yoruba that they know, but the business of making money they understand. Like I said in my last post money doesn't care what language you understand provided you understand it's principles.

I find both their men and women to be very hardworking and enterprising, I like to think that they work hard and party harder.

When I lived in Port Harcourt, my dream in life was to go to school, graduate, do a 9 to 5, marry, have kids, retire at most build one or two houses for retirement benefits and then grow old and finally die... all these changed when I got to Lagos and I saw what a lot of my mates even girls younger than I was working it..hustling... struggling to see their business work and grow. I watched friends start from nothing to something... Lagos put me on my feet. My Yoruba friends put me on my feet. I still had the dreams of marrying and having kids, but the 9 to 5 changed I realised that I loved being my own boss ( in my head if Jumoke could do it then I could). So instead of wanting just one or two houses I would love a lot more, strictly for business purposes.

They are not to particular about having male children... even though you still find some that wont change.


The down sides of the Yoruba's


They are very clueless as to the other tribes in Nigeria. I find it annoying when they refer me and all the other tribes as Igbo... are they for real..don't they know that there is Niger delta, there are states like Rivers State, Cross Rivers state etc...

They can be tribalistic, although I  think a lot of that is changing as you know I am married to a Yoruba guy...(lol I am sure you will say this lady is just rubbing it in...sorry can't help it).

Now I get to their culture I just don't understand why I have to prostrate as a sign of respect. I can show my respect by just being polite... I think they should be open to other people's culture.

This is what I find very amusing: Yoruba's are the most unserious Moslem's I have ever come across. I can never forget the day i went for a Yoruba Muslim's wedding after the Muslim rights and wedding, a pastor suddenly materialized and started praying in GOD the father, GOD the son and GOD the Holy Ghost I was as shocked as can be.


I think I will stop here... please let me know what you think and if there is anything I have missed just feel free to send them in.

P.S. "this is not in anyway intended to insult anybody or tribe.

Do take care and have a lovely day...

Ciao

Various Tribes (Igbo Tribe)

Nigeria is a country with about 150millions citizens and counting, with different ethnic groups, tribes, villages, languages and divers cultures I love this about Nigeria as it makes the country a very interesting one. I decided that over time I will do a study on a lot of the tribes in Nigeria or should I say as many tribes in Nigeria I can blog about, talking about their weakness and a lot about their strength.
The Ibo tribe is my first point of call as I love their enthusiasm when it comes to making money. Now if you want to be an entrepreneur or are already one, I will advise that you have a few trusted Ibo friends by your side, understudy them as they conduct their business and learn a lot about endurance, determination and not eating one's profit until they have arrived.  (ie this advise is for me)...


I know this guy who goes by the name "OKE Japan", he sells very beautiful professional cameras in Lagos Island. Now his shop/kiosk/store is very small in fact five people can barely seat inside it comfortably (meaning he doesn't pay a lot of money for over head. LOL). Now if you stay in his place for like 3 hours which you usually will do as there are a lot of customers, you will be surprised to find out that he has sold goods worth 3million and all in cash. "His slogan is if you want to speak grammar speak to my wife she has PhD, but if you want to talk business and money come and talk to me, that is what I understand).

An Ibo man will sleep under his brother's bed for 7 years just to learn a trade, after which his brother will settle him, meaning paying him off and sending him off to go and start his own business.

After reading Chinua Achebe's novel "there was a country", I realised that if the federal government had just recognized the talent the Ibo's had and had encouraged them, giving them resources and good standardization of the products, Nigeria would have become the next China or better still blown up before China did. Will this ever happen I almost doubt that, but like always I hope.

It's only an Ibo man that if the government banes the use of generators in Nigeria, instead of lamenting for years and thinking of how this bad luck must be from his village, will just switch to selling transformers without asking questions. I also love them as they mostly believe in volume sales and make good use of it. It surprised me when I got to Republic of Benin and I was told that there is an Igbo market, I had to go and see it myself.


Their weaknesses

They can be very fast and I mean that in a bad way. One is almost very careful when one has a business deal with them..lol

Because of their gift of making money, they usually aren't interested in going to school which in a way is comme si comme ca.

Although its gradually changing, Male kids are considered better than female kids. I think this is still prominent amongst Ibo's and I wish it will change soon, that's why I am so happy when I see Igbo families that have strong females.


I gotta sign off...

above all there is an exception to every rule and I think they have a lot in common with the Chinese.

P.S. "Please this post is not intended to insult anybody...just observations....comments will be welcomed.


Ciao

My Hero/Happy mother's day

Okay so I have been having phones issues for a long time now and it hasn't been funny. I have resolved to stop using post paid and go to pre-paid. its easier to track my credit use.

Anyways I missed you all and I have to just make it up. I have been working on my bag designs and setting up a business I must say not easy as one is also juggling motherhood.

P.S. Check this space cos some big giveaways: coming soon.

I was just chatting with my neighbour today that men staying sexy and being a mother ain't easy.. This evening I was smelling of baby poop, baby vomit, spit and baby milk. You can imagine how I smelt horrible. Since my darling's bed time is 7pm, after her bed time, I took a hot shower, now that is priceless.


I should have written this post a while ago but couldn't... on the 25th of February I went to pick up Temi from the airport. so with Yosola strapped in her car seat, the radio jamming some lovely tunes I hit the road, ready to go and pick my man. By the time I got to the toll gate, I realised that in my enthusiasm I forgot my bag, meaning I also forgot my wallet meaning I had no money on me. Chei yepa!!!! what was I going to do. Who was going to believe this babe with dark sunglasses, black air conditioned car, that she didn't have a dime on her.
Anyways I just said a short prayer before I got to the toll, quickly I just called out to the attendant and politely explained that I had forgotten my wallet blah blah blah. Without any shakara, the young man told me that I could go... I was so glad and touched...

I know sometimes it's hard to believe good things still happen in this great country of ours, sometimes I even almost don't trust a lot of people I come across as I have been duped several times, but I must say Ibrahim the toll gate attendant was my hero for the day.



Wishing every mother, intending mothers, god mothers, grandmothers happy mothers day...

P.S. "I saw this on facebook : "if every one's mum is the best then who owns the mums that are doing witchcraft?"

Lol I laughed and from the stories I have heard some peoples mums aren't good people at all... But we still wish them a happy mothers day as well.


Happy mother's day to my mum "Prof. Aduabobo Ibitoru Hart

Ciao

MY WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY

Just before I gave birth to my daughter I was weighing 95kg, meaning I had gained a lot  considering I weighed 55kg before I became pregnant ie (gaining appr. 40 kg). During the last stage of the pregnancy, I stopped looking at the scale each time I went to the hospital. I was afraid I had gotten up to a hundred kilos. Anyways when I gave birth I was determined to loose the weight, thereby learning a lot from the experience. You aren't allowed to exercise until after your 6 weeks check up, so I just changed my diet, note  I didn't go on a diet as I was breastfeeding, I just had a lifestyle change. Instead of fizzy drinks I took water. Instead of white rice I ate brown rice. Instead of white bread I ate wheat bread with peanut butter, instead of a lot of carbs I took more proteins like beans and a lot of unripe plantain porridge.

I had my cheat days though: those days I will drink a bottle or two of coca cola, maybe sometimes have a little ice cream, eat white rice, or white bread etc. After my 6 weeks check up, I started my exercise, now my dears I learnt that exercising and changing one's habit isn't as easy as it looks... There were days when I will just decide I can't do it any more but I had made a vow that when my daughter is born I will learn to eat right and teach her also how to, this kept me going... I am still struggling with the fizzy drinks as I used to be a coke addict averaging about 5 bottles of coca cola a day.


Right now I weigh 63kg meaning I have lost about 30kg. I am very impressed with myself, giving myself a tap on the back...lol

Like I said eating right isn't very easy,one just has to take it one day at a time, and that is what I have been doing. I hope I  am able to keep my good diet as it also has helped with the growth of my hair and finger nails, truly what you take in produces results...

I will have to stop here for now as I can't wait to lay my head on the pillow.


Please tell me about your weight struggles if you have had any before and how you dealt with yours.
Do take care of yourself and have a good night's rest.

WHERE CAN ONE FIND MONEY IN NIGERIA?

First of all I will like to say congrats to Nigeria for winning the African cup of nations... Now I must confess I didn't support them at all, didn't even believe in them but I guess I had to eat my words when we did a go job today.


Now back to our topic for today.... it baffles me that a country where almost 80% of the population live under a dollar, yet they able to survive, in the grassroots, the corner shops guys are able to survive everyday. I got into a discussion with the lady that usually comes to my house to clean, and we were just talking about everything. As we were talking I asked her if she was still selling recharge cards for phones, she said no and I asked why? in her own words:

Me: why did you stop selling the cards
Cleaner: because no gain
Me: are you serious?
Cleaner: yes aunty
Me: so what will you do now
Cleaner: I have a shed were I sell small small things like groundnut, garri, etc
Me: are you serious. And how much did you use to start it?
Cleaner: ten thousand Naira
Me: that's great. but do you make profits
Cleaner: yes I do, like when I buy a bucket of groundnut for seven hundred naira, by the time I sell it I make about #1,500 (naira) and groundnut and garri moves fast a lot.
Me: interesting
Cleaner: I want to start selling coke because it will bring more money
Me: that is very good.



After this talk with the lady it dawned on me that the money in Nigeria is not in the cooperate world, or in the banks, the money in Nigeria is on the streets. The equivalent of this lady, in America is the "mum and pop", stores.


Lessons learnt: if I behave like the cleaner with my money I will be able to have invested it in something small and be able to get at least #5,000 in my hands everyday.....


Note to self: we underestiamte the determination of a man who has decided to work hard.

Its time to go. Take care and have a lovely day.

I AM BACK

Aww just looked at my last post and it's dated January 4th,  I should be doing more.
Anyways I think I am really getting a hang of motherhood and loving it, so more posts to come. My daughter who is 5 months, is now on a schedule. She now sleeps all through the night between 10 to 12 hours and that is pure heaven. By 7 p.m she is feed properly, note: once a baby is well feed she will sleep like a log of wood". So she eats, is changed for the night, a little play time and in less than an hour and a half she is asleep, till the next morning. This gives Temi and I time to gist, catch up on the day, then if I can I squeeze in a little reading and writing. Like they say little by little one will accomplish all one has set out to.


About my weight journey, its coming out well, my tummy is still big, but let's see what will happen in the coming months.

About the eating right, I think we are doing good in that department, no fizzy drinks in the house, even though I must say that sometimes I just want to buy some bottles of coca cola and just drink it...ahhh refreshing....

I joined a writers challenge in the month of January we were suppose to write between 500 to 2000 words everyday for the whole month. hmmm I must say that was one of the hardest things to do, I wrote up to 17k words, would have loved to write more than that maybe the 30k range but oh well, I am happy that I have been able to do this.

Now: what do I want for this blog: like I said I will try my best to post motivational articles, things that interest me, my products and hope that I will get some sales for them. I have a few gifts I will like to give out, I hope it gets out of my house before Val's day..


NOTE:  I think I have talked to much...was just telling my friend that I think I have fallen into the category of to much talk and no action... now action is the key...


Happy new year once again, Sweet dreams.

Happy New Year

Wow happy new year everybody. I am so grateful seeing this new year. There are a lot of interesting things I have planned out for this year and hopefully I will be able to achieve everyone of it. Now notice I didn't say "New years resolution..lol but they are still my goals and I look forward to achieving everyone of it.

1. Every year I make up my mind that I will get at least one of my books published and finally join the published authors of our time...this has not been an easy feet at all, even though I know deep down maybe I haven't really wanted it so bad, so I have decided to work with a professional editor and have a good edit of my book, if it means denying myself a lot of things I will have to do that, after all they say the end justifies the means. After this I will send my books to every publisher I can think of, if I am not accepted then I have decided that I will go the self publishing route been reading alot about E-publishing.

2.I have finally over come my fear of failing and following my dreams about hand crafts. So from time to time I will be posting my products on my blog for sale and I hope that I will make sales as well. Do not have the money for a website now, so for the mean time I will depend on social media, Facebook, word of mouths, my blog and small trunk shows.

3. I made up my mind that even though I haven't achieved all that I set out to do, I am still so grateful for what God has done in my life and is still doing. So in other to show my gratitude, from time to time I will be giving away free gifts ranging from books to any of my beautiful products. So stay tune and keep coming back to my blog cos you never know when it may be your lucky day.

4. I just started this writers challenge on the 2nd of this month, where we all have to write between 500 to 2000 words everyday and post our progress weekly till the end of January. Now I must say this is so easy but very difficult at the same time, but I must say I have been able to keep it up and like the way its been going. If I am able to do this, then I would have developed the habit of writing everyday no matter how little. Now if you write 2k words a day in the space of 30 days you will have written about 60k words by the end of the month, now that is a novel... so will keep you updated on everything.

5. Temi and I have decided to be more pro active on eating healthy and cutting down on the carbs and fizzy drinks. Eat a lot more fruits and veggies and exercise at least three times a week. Mind you I am still on my mission to loose my baby fat, so lets see how it goes.

6. Reading my bible and praying more often. For me I don't do anything without acknowledging the fact that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

7. As a writer I must be a reader as well, so reading doesn't go out of my to do list. Falling in love more and more with e-readers. more convenient and can be carried everywhere.


Finally I will not beat myself up if I cannot achieve any of these things above, but I promise to do my best and look back and give myself a pat on the back.

I hope we all have interesting plans for the new year and I look forward to learning a lot from you all.

P.S. did I forget to add my interest in fashion as well and that I am going to revamp my blog? I haven't added that I will do all this while taking care of my daughter and my family. Now this mama is going to be a very busy mama, no time for frivolities.....LOL

Take care of yourself and have a happy new year.