Hello lilies! How was your weekend/ hoilday? it was fantastique i guess. As for me i had fun like i told you yesterday my friends came into town, so we painted Lagos red......... shhhhhhhhhhh dont mind me am just kidding.......................I had fun without painting the town red. Anyways today as i was taking my usual walk round the estate this verse came to mind...proverbs 18:22...... please read this interesting story......
A young, established, rich, famous and influential man and his wife were on their on his way to a party,on their way they had to buy gas for the car. As their driver pulled over into the filling station the wife looked out the window, to her surprise she recognized the young man selling gas. He was her ex-boyfriend, her high school sweetheart (if you know what i mean). After getting gas the couple continued on their journey as was expected she told her husband what she had just discovered. Her husband's reply: ' sweetheart i think you should be very grateful that you got married to me. If you hadn't you will have been the wife of that pump guy. I mean the wife of a fuel attendant.............the wife's reply..............
No honey! if i hadn't married you, you would have been the fuel attendant, standing over there selling fuel and the fuel attendant would have been over here, sitting in the back seat of this limo buying fuel.........at this point the man remembered this passage : ' whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour from the LORD'.
As women God has made us very useful in the lives of our husbands, our homes and our society. If we know how precious we are, we will not take trash from anyone. Listen its not behind a successful man there is a woman but besides every successful man there is a woman. When a man finds a woman automatically he obtains favour from God. God doesn't go down on his word and He is not a man that He should lie. Use this as your weapon in time of huddles and when it is 'situation time'.
As i looked at this scripture i realised that for everything that happens to your husband, you are almost 100% responsible for it. You are to be his council. You are to be his comforter here on earth, you are the shoulder he leans on. You are his greatest cheerleader and supporter. You support his dreams and goals and help him build it. You are his prayer warrior. ( Stormie Omartian the author of 'the power of the praying wife' said this: as a wife your prayers have the strongest hold on your husband. It is even stronger than that of his mother'). The power God has given a woman over her husband is very great and should be used wisely. If used according to the will of God, there will be great wonders in the home, family and society.
As you pray talk to God and remind him of his word in Proverbs, because of you, your husband obtains and will continue to obtain favour forever till Jesus comes.
note this: Warren Buffet now the richest man in the world with $65billion, says that HIS WIFE IS THE BEST THING THAT EVER HAPPENED TO HIM'. let that be our portion in Jesus Name.
Take care of your selves, I love you and will be back tomorrow.
Monday, November 30, 2009
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Emotions
Goodafternoon girls! Am so sorry its been a while, my close friends came into town and I was carried away, with all the gisting and story telling. Do forgive me and i'll make it up to you this week.......My secret today has to do with emotions...... I have learn't that emotions determine the outcome of your day or how you perform your activites. I woke up today feeling very moody....with my friends around it was so easy to push the thoughts away and get distracted, but as the house grew quiet the thoughts ran back in, into my heart to torment me.......I thought to myself why me? I havent done anything to deserve this.......I have counted and counted almost everybody i know has moved on with their lives.......but as for me am still waiting.....
don't get me wrong i am blest in my marriage and love it......what am talking about is something different. Something that always plagues the 'African woman'. You can imagine that i made sure i didnt go to church today, cos i didnt want to go there and cry my eyes out. If you must know am kind of rebeling, i want to run away from God, but where do i run to? nowhere i guess. I felt the Holyspirit tap me on the shoulder, to let me know he was still around waiting for me to come back....I know He wants me to know that its not by my strength but by the Spirit says the Lord.
From north to east to west i have traveled in search of solution and everywhere I go i get the same answer......there is nothing wrong with you.....you are blest.....just wait for God's time. Just wait and trust in Him, He is always Faithful.......
Days when I get messages like that am happy and refreshed, conquering the world isn't a big issue for me.....but when it is the time of the mouth and the pain comes i loose faith. It becomes difficult to believe, to hold fast to Gods words........
I have learnt not to be quick to give advice, cos no one ever knows why? Only God........ Nobody knows what he or she will do until they are in a difficult position......
But i will hold on and continue to hold on.......as someone once said......the word of the Lord stands it doesn't fail and it will never fail. He has said ....................be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth................that is his command and so shall it be for me................
Do take care and like me it may not be easy but always hold unto the word of the lord..It will never fail...It may not be easy cos trust me we live in a country where people will never mind their buisness................never mind them and just hold on...........
Have a lovely sunday afternoon with your family today....make sure you have fun cos life is too short to suffer.
don't get me wrong i am blest in my marriage and love it......what am talking about is something different. Something that always plagues the 'African woman'. You can imagine that i made sure i didnt go to church today, cos i didnt want to go there and cry my eyes out. If you must know am kind of rebeling, i want to run away from God, but where do i run to? nowhere i guess. I felt the Holyspirit tap me on the shoulder, to let me know he was still around waiting for me to come back....I know He wants me to know that its not by my strength but by the Spirit says the Lord.
From north to east to west i have traveled in search of solution and everywhere I go i get the same answer......there is nothing wrong with you.....you are blest.....just wait for God's time. Just wait and trust in Him, He is always Faithful.......
Days when I get messages like that am happy and refreshed, conquering the world isn't a big issue for me.....but when it is the time of the mouth and the pain comes i loose faith. It becomes difficult to believe, to hold fast to Gods words........
I have learnt not to be quick to give advice, cos no one ever knows why? Only God........ Nobody knows what he or she will do until they are in a difficult position......
But i will hold on and continue to hold on.......as someone once said......the word of the Lord stands it doesn't fail and it will never fail. He has said ....................be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth................that is his command and so shall it be for me................
Do take care and like me it may not be easy but always hold unto the word of the lord..It will never fail...It may not be easy cos trust me we live in a country where people will never mind their buisness................never mind them and just hold on...........
Have a lovely sunday afternoon with your family today....make sure you have fun cos life is too short to suffer.
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Goals
Hello lilies! You will not believe it but i have been trying to write this blog for a while now. First of all I experienced a little writer's block......when i finally got the inspiration to write, the internet was down.....anyways nothing will stop me from having fun with you all............
P.s. listen to this hott gist....lets gossip a little........are you ready............okay here it is:
a few days ago Oprah Windfrey announced that she will end her show in 2011.According to her: twemty-five years feels right in my bones and feels right in my spirit. Her show started in 1986 and it has been a hit since then. Inspite of her rough, poor and bad childhood she succeeded in making a mark in the world. Growing up with her grandmother who was so poor wasn't easy. They were so poor that she wore clothes made out of potato sacks, for which the local children made fun of her. She was molested and sexually abused as a child. She had her fair share of suffering before she overcame it and became great. Today according to some assesement she is rated the most influential woman in the world........
My emphasis is the phrase: 'the most influential woman in the world'.......... in spite of everything she set out to overcome her past and make a mark in the world. She has succeeded and so can you.
Whatever thing you set out to achieve you can do it, everything starts in the mind. What you think of your self is what you will become. If your thinking is in the negative, only negative things will surround you. People cannot see you differently from how you see yourself. If you see yourself as a looser, people will see you as one, you will only be attracted to loosers and loosers to you. Have you ever asked yourself why is it that ladies who have very low self esteem, tend to associate with men who also have low self esteem or men who are ready to show them how low they are at every minute.
After reading the biography of Oprah i set out goals for myself.....
1. i want to leave this world with a legacy to my name
2.i want to make an impact in the lives of women all over the world.
3.i want to be able to stand for the truth no matter what
4.helping people in need will never be a problem to me...........
5. i want to make history like the likes of Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey,Tyler Perry.......
All these i want to achieve with the grace of God by my side, and i know i will accomplish them and even more..........
i urge you to sit down join me, make your goals, dreams,list or whatever name you give it, keep it by your bedside. So as you get up every morning that will be the first thing you see and the last thing to see before you go to bed....... I can assure you, you will be surprised at what you can achieve.
Notez Bien: stand up and join the fight against 'I cannot'......
take care and my love to you all.....keep all those secrets for me and share them with me tomorrow.
bye
P.s. listen to this hott gist....lets gossip a little........are you ready............okay here it is:
a few days ago Oprah Windfrey announced that she will end her show in 2011.According to her: twemty-five years feels right in my bones and feels right in my spirit. Her show started in 1986 and it has been a hit since then. Inspite of her rough, poor and bad childhood she succeeded in making a mark in the world. Growing up with her grandmother who was so poor wasn't easy. They were so poor that she wore clothes made out of potato sacks, for which the local children made fun of her. She was molested and sexually abused as a child. She had her fair share of suffering before she overcame it and became great. Today according to some assesement she is rated the most influential woman in the world........
My emphasis is the phrase: 'the most influential woman in the world'.......... in spite of everything she set out to overcome her past and make a mark in the world. She has succeeded and so can you.
Whatever thing you set out to achieve you can do it, everything starts in the mind. What you think of your self is what you will become. If your thinking is in the negative, only negative things will surround you. People cannot see you differently from how you see yourself. If you see yourself as a looser, people will see you as one, you will only be attracted to loosers and loosers to you. Have you ever asked yourself why is it that ladies who have very low self esteem, tend to associate with men who also have low self esteem or men who are ready to show them how low they are at every minute.
After reading the biography of Oprah i set out goals for myself.....
1. i want to leave this world with a legacy to my name
2.i want to make an impact in the lives of women all over the world.
3.i want to be able to stand for the truth no matter what
4.helping people in need will never be a problem to me...........
5. i want to make history like the likes of Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey,Tyler Perry.......
All these i want to achieve with the grace of God by my side, and i know i will accomplish them and even more..........
i urge you to sit down join me, make your goals, dreams,list or whatever name you give it, keep it by your bedside. So as you get up every morning that will be the first thing you see and the last thing to see before you go to bed....... I can assure you, you will be surprised at what you can achieve.
Notez Bien: stand up and join the fight against 'I cannot'......
take care and my love to you all.....keep all those secrets for me and share them with me tomorrow.
bye
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Monday, November 23, 2009
reduction of work hours for women
Hello dears, sorry am late today. You will not believe it....... I have been trying to upload my blog for a long time now and it was difficult for me to do. I felt like a local girl, please dont laugh at me.......and shhhhhhhhhhhhh! dont tell anyone its our little secret. How can someone start a blog herself and have a problem uploading her messages. funny isnt it? Anyways i am okay and everything is under control..........
Today i' ll like to write about a topic that has a very special place in my heart. 'the almighty work hours of women'. Long 'Work hours' is now in vogue as the french will say it : 'C'est a la mode'. You can imagine women staying leaving their offices very late. I don't want to sound old fashioned or like a grandma...... Mind you: Am not saying am against women working but i am not comfortable with the work hours. for instance a friend of mine has been considering quitting her job. when asked why? she gave me her daily routine. this is it: 'every morning she leaves her house as early as 5a.m or 5.30a.m to get to work, this she does because of the ALmighty traffic in Lagos........ guess what? she has to little kids. NOW her status: she is a mother, a wife and a career woman. okay back to her story. let' s give her a name. what name should we call her? am thinking Mabel. I hope you like it. okay so Mabel leaves the house with her kids,because she has to drop the off at school /creche... whao! you can imagine what time she gets up from bed, probably 3a.m or some crazy time. okay she drops them off at the creche and then goes to work. work starts at 8a.m both she has to be at work before the 'official opening hours( in other to be seen as a hard working staff). official closing hours in 5p.m but Mabel leaves the office every time at 7pm ,cos there is always stuff to do after work. she rushes to the creche in other to pick her kids, cos by 7.30pm the clock starts ticking for her in the creche and the bills start going up. With that solved she then heads home. Mabel doesn't get home immediately, she encounters her friend who never leaves her alone: ' Lagos Traffic'...which has wosen with the road construction..... after all the hasle she finally gets home by 10.30pm or sometimes 11pm......fagged out, frustrated, and nobody to help.... not even a maid.... ( why? she had become fagged out with all their problems so she sent them all away). That late she may have to fix dinner even if it's 'take away'get the kids tucked in bed and pretends to be interested in whatever husband is saying who surprisingly isnt tired........you know what i mean......Mabel finally goes to bed a minute before 12am. but her sleep is short lived, morning draws near and the hasle begins......
After Mabel's narration of her day i felt so sorry for her.... she doesnt have a life of her own. she doesnt have family time and she doesnt have what i call husband and wife time. All these things she lacks, will at the long run damage her marriage, her life and her family.
I ask myself every day what should she do? do you think she should resign? she is fortunate she can even consider that option, at least her husband has a stable job and doesn't have a problem taking care of her needs. But what about the ones that don't have an option, what will they do? How will they keep their home and their sanity? is life unfair? or is it harsh? does it choose who to disturb or who to cuddle?
I will leave you my dears with these questions, to assimilate and ponder.
But before note this: as someone once said once there is life there is hope'.
Take care ' lilies', will talk about this some more tomorrow.
Goodnight.
Today i' ll like to write about a topic that has a very special place in my heart. 'the almighty work hours of women'. Long 'Work hours' is now in vogue as the french will say it : 'C'est a la mode'. You can imagine women staying leaving their offices very late. I don't want to sound old fashioned or like a grandma...... Mind you: Am not saying am against women working but i am not comfortable with the work hours. for instance a friend of mine has been considering quitting her job. when asked why? she gave me her daily routine. this is it: 'every morning she leaves her house as early as 5a.m or 5.30a.m to get to work, this she does because of the ALmighty traffic in Lagos........ guess what? she has to little kids. NOW her status: she is a mother, a wife and a career woman. okay back to her story. let' s give her a name. what name should we call her? am thinking Mabel. I hope you like it. okay so Mabel leaves the house with her kids,because she has to drop the off at school /creche... whao! you can imagine what time she gets up from bed, probably 3a.m or some crazy time. okay she drops them off at the creche and then goes to work. work starts at 8a.m both she has to be at work before the 'official opening hours( in other to be seen as a hard working staff). official closing hours in 5p.m but Mabel leaves the office every time at 7pm ,cos there is always stuff to do after work. she rushes to the creche in other to pick her kids, cos by 7.30pm the clock starts ticking for her in the creche and the bills start going up. With that solved she then heads home. Mabel doesn't get home immediately, she encounters her friend who never leaves her alone: ' Lagos Traffic'...which has wosen with the road construction..... after all the hasle she finally gets home by 10.30pm or sometimes 11pm......fagged out, frustrated, and nobody to help.... not even a maid.... ( why? she had become fagged out with all their problems so she sent them all away). That late she may have to fix dinner even if it's 'take away'get the kids tucked in bed and pretends to be interested in whatever husband is saying who surprisingly isnt tired........you know what i mean......Mabel finally goes to bed a minute before 12am. but her sleep is short lived, morning draws near and the hasle begins......
After Mabel's narration of her day i felt so sorry for her.... she doesnt have a life of her own. she doesnt have family time and she doesnt have what i call husband and wife time. All these things she lacks, will at the long run damage her marriage, her life and her family.
I ask myself every day what should she do? do you think she should resign? she is fortunate she can even consider that option, at least her husband has a stable job and doesn't have a problem taking care of her needs. But what about the ones that don't have an option, what will they do? How will they keep their home and their sanity? is life unfair? or is it harsh? does it choose who to disturb or who to cuddle?
I will leave you my dears with these questions, to assimilate and ponder.
But before note this: as someone once said once there is life there is hope'.
Take care ' lilies', will talk about this some more tomorrow.
Goodnight.
Saturday, November 21, 2009
my day's hassle
Hello, its my first time here and i will like to start by sharing my day's experience with you. Today, as usual i woke up by 6.45a.m. for my daily walk. I walked for 1hour 30minutes praying, meditating and talking to God. As i walked i saw the same set of people in their cars, driving pass certainly on their way to work. The comments by certain passerbys didnt escape me. Because of the fuel scarcity i had to go buy fuel, for my car and my generator, and as we known in Nigeria generators are no longer used as 'backups' but as main sources of electricity. Determined to get fuel at all cost I ignored the long queue and went in search for my friend, the car wash guy (luckily for me the car wash is located inside the filling station compound). We both pretended i was coming in to wash my car, in order not to lie i was forced to wash my car although it had been washed the night before. This became my avenue of getting into the filing station without waiting for hours on the queue. After all the begging, cajoling and making the attendants have a sense of being in charge, i was able to get fuel both for my car and my generator. My joy was short lived as my car decided to deal with me. i discovered that my fuel tank was licking in the filling station which was scary. infact before i put on the ignition i confessed all my sins, cos i felt the car was going to go up in flames and i was going to be gone. I didnt want to risk going to hell for anything. In less than 10 minutes my shaft decided it was time to say good bye, one of the car tyres went bad, not flat but completly bad. The airconditioning told me: am sorry but am exhausted. to crown it all the car started making a terrible noise as though i was driving a train not a car. Embrassed as it may i drove the car slowly back to my house.........
lessons learnt: 'events take place not to discourage us but to make us stronger and able to over come obstacles. If we permit life to take a ride with our lives it would. Never allow anything negative to weigh you down in life. Once there is life, there is hope. I did not allow the events of my day to get to me, instead i looked for the humor in it. I got home relaxed, had a fantastic meal, watch a movie and made sure i achieved all that i had set out to do for that day.
take care and have fun.
notez bien: for all its worth : note this nothing is impossible to accomplish even as a woman.
lessons learnt: 'events take place not to discourage us but to make us stronger and able to over come obstacles. If we permit life to take a ride with our lives it would. Never allow anything negative to weigh you down in life. Once there is life, there is hope. I did not allow the events of my day to get to me, instead i looked for the humor in it. I got home relaxed, had a fantastic meal, watch a movie and made sure i achieved all that i had set out to do for that day.
take care and have fun.
notez bien: for all its worth : note this nothing is impossible to accomplish even as a woman.
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