Sorry how difficult or easy

Hello and how are you doing today? before i go to bed i just want to pour out my heart. Today wasn't a bad day for me if i may say but i am in the mood where the "i am sorry" sentence is a little bit to heavy for me. Somebody said that when you are the first person to say that you are sorry it means you are the most mature person in the relationship. How true? right now, with the way i am feeling i think that i want to be the last person saying "i am sorry", don't you think. It makes me feel on top of the world, don't you think? lol come on who is with me on this one?

Anyways deep down i know and i have always know that it's more matured to be the first to use the "i am sorry" sentence. Yes i can hear you it is not easy at all, some times you just want to ignore that little voice telling you to just swallow your pride and say that you are sorry even when you weren't the one at fault. You want to listen to the aggressive voice telling you not to even dare, that you are going to look very small and you will just be taken for granted because you said "i am sorry".

If we all learn to say "i am sorry" first the world will be a better place, relationships will wax stronger and stronger, families will have a more solid foundation and we will all sleep peacefully at night, believe me i have tried it and it works...it still doesn't make it easy at all.....

It's time for me to go to bed now, before i say goodnight please join the campaign and learn to say sorry first no matter the situation. Ciao

Cooking and Surfing the net!!!!Cool!!!

Whats up? Men big man life good oh, before i tatafoo let me just let you know that i am cooking at the same time gisting with you. Don't you just like my job, lol. Anyways i want to give you some inside tatafoo now, after today we must be serious, no more gossip my friends...ha ha aha ha...

There was this show i kinda of attended (you know when you are outside the entrance of an event you know what is happening but you can't get in cos the bill tooo much to pay....and you know now life has changed.....Crying i wish i was still a little child, as a child i never had any worries in life, but now omo I must plan well well before i become broke my people......

So back to the gist..............because of this show i was opportune to see a lot of people, especially our expatriate friends, from different race......the white, the green, the yellow, the orange and of course the nigerians. Hmmmm Nija is changing oh....we now have beaucoup de flow of different human race.

Sitting in a corner i observed-----you know i like to observe, so i can download it to you......I saw different characters . What caught my attention were the Nigerians again, that came in with the orange race. They acted as though they were small g-o-ds. I noticed that they all had either fake british accents or american accents if you know what a i mean......Hmmmmm who do we always try to impress-----hey heeelloooooo, why?

Let me digress a little, one of those times i was feeling rich, we decided to hire a chauffeur, as usual we had an interview for them. One of the chauffeurs when asked how long he had been driving , his reply " i bin drive plenty white men before now", His chest swelling up with pride, as though he would be hired on the spot cos of the information he generously dished out........

I don't know, maybe it's the effect of slavery or colonization but an average black man subconsciously feels the white man is more superior than he is..........i don't know if this is true but i write from experience...........

Before we become great, fulfill our dreams, everything begins from the mind. If our mind isn't set right we will never trust our own strength, our inner man. If you ask me instead of the fake accents, the fake lives, the lies about all our accomplishment and who are parents are, just be yourself and work on being a better person. Then you can stand tall and be proud of who you are and where you come from.

Oh well it's time to take my leave before my soup gets burnt. Have a lovely weekend and do something good this weekend. Help a child, a woman, a man or a community. Ciao

Welcome Back

I think i deserve a welcome back don't you think? Once again i am so sorry that i have stayed away from all of you for so long. This won't happen again i promise. Today i don't have any topic to talk about but let us just gist oh. Today as i sat down in the restaurant, watching the customers walk in and out, i noticed this car drive in. Mind you it was an SUV or a Jeep as Nigerian call it. what struck me was the attitude of the driver of the car. He was forming, i say this kin effisey i never see loll. Lagosians people will not kill me oh with formings.....

Anyways, this guy made sure he parked his car very close to the entrance of the restaurant, and then stepping out he walked like he had gold shoes. I must say he didn't even walk he was gliding. He had the air of "i hope you guys saw the car i came with....oh before i forget i hope you noticed that my shoes are designers and my suit is bloody expensive.......please excuse my language. Haba nija we will never change. Even the girl he came to see on could tell that she wasn't happy with him, cos he kept her waiting for a long time, secondly the guy is too full of himself, but does she have a choice? She wants something from him, so she will have to stick in there and take the rubbish from him lol. I pray i am never in that kind of position. I want to leave this earth with my dignity if you no what I mean.

Okay to cut the long story short it struck me that human beings are moved by appearance. If my husband comes to drop me or i drive our one and only i never will let him drop me at the entrance of the restaurant, in fact i may even go as far as saying u know what honey just drop me of at the other side of the road, don't bother yourself. loll. I am having a good laugh now i am sure you are also. Don't mind me oh jare...we all fall victim of that once in a while, it may not be a car, it may be the way we look, something.......

But you know what, before i stop my tatafoo let me tell you this, people who are rich, when i mean rich, genuinely rich and worked hard for their money, never make noise. They are always very simple and underrated. I don't want to be a rich person with a big mouth blowing my trumpet everyday, no!!!! I want my works to speak for itself....how about you?

Notez Bien: do two things for me 1. don't let pride or what you have get into your head, always remain humble. 2. please read a book this week.

Take care of yourself and will tatafoo again tomorrow. Ciao.

THANK YOU

Hello whats up lilies? I just want to say thank you to all those who have encouraged me in the past and who encourage me every time I write something. Thank you very much.....

The last time I told you how I was feeling very moody and sad, but you won't believe it, God did something miraculous in my life. In sound of music the Reverend Mother told Maria this: " Sometimes when the doors are closed the Lord opens the windows", and this is very true. I got a call that a proposal I submitted for a translation job had been accepted. Imagine me I stood against big names in the industry and God worked his wonders for me. I think it was just His way of telling me not to give up but continue, thereby reaffirming my faith in my destiny, to be my own boss. I just want to use my story to encourage someone out there, it may take a while, or sometimes the obstacles are too much to bear, don't worry so long as you believe in it, God is with you. I will not talk too much today because it is "weekend" and I don't work on "weekends", that's the time my baby and I spend time together, it's our family time......but before I go I will like to leave you with this advice

: " Whatever you want to do in life, be it a career or a business or a family make sure you have a passion for it, so that when the hurdles come you can stand and face the storm, cos believe me the hurdles will surely come". Take care........

FEELING DOWN

You know there are just some days when you don't feel right. Your mood is terrible and you are wondering are you good enough? Today I feel that way. I woke up happy and excited, but it was short lived. I got a mail this morning that an assignment I had submitted didn't make it. Questions ran through my head like.......How good am I in what I do? Is it that I don't know what I am doing? Maybe I am not good enough to venture into this world alone. Maybe I am not cut out to be a writer. Maybe I should just pack up my bag and forget all this talk about being my own boss, doing my own thing and making money from it.

Right now the encourager needs encouragement. The writer needs inspiration, the wife needs love, the woman needs acceptance, the child needs to know that she is good, hardworking and can do anything she sets her heart to do. As it stands I am confused and I don't know what to do or say. How do I start all over? What do I do? I put a lot into this, only for me to loose it.........Oh God help me. You are the only one that can console me..........

I CAN DO IT

Everyday I read about extraordinary things people do and things being accomplished and I wonder what is wrong with me. Why can't I do what they are doing? Sometimes it very clear what I want in life, but when the pressure comes I don't know what I want any more. I know I want to be different things, I know I want to be a writer, but as it stands now my back aches so badly, I haven't even had my first salary as a writer, the contract I was hoping for doesn't seem to be forth coming. I say to myself is it worth it. I want to be very rich, travel the world, make an impact in the world, but as it stands, I am not even sure what I have in my bank account. How then can I travel the world? Make an impact in the world? I see a blogger and then I hear, oh she has 20,000 followers daily and then I say to myself what does she write that I cannot write. People who are at the very top, what do they do that I do not? How many heads do they have? How many cells do they have in their brains?

Often times we get so discouraged that we don't want to continue again. We are so frustrated that life just doesn't seem fair. Someone said that sometimes reality is to painful to bare, sometimes illusion is the way forward. Yes we can have choose to live in a fantasy world or we can chose to see reality as it is and try to make the most of it.

After my hours of self pity, I have risen to tell you that no matter what I am not giving up. I have a passion for what I am doing and I will continue to do it. I know nothing good comes easy, but I will develop the patience to wait.

Everybody has one life time to live, make sure you achieve all that you set out to do, before it is to late.

P.s: this week do something extraordinary. Pick up that book and read, enroll for that course, start that business, learn how to drive a car or ride a power bike. Whatever you have a passion for do it now before it is too late.

INSIGNIFICANT BUT VALUABLE

Hello, everybody i am so sorry i haven't been in touch and i am very sorry about it, but i want to promise you that i will not stay away this long ago. I am here today to talk about some extraordinary news i just received a while ago. I found out that a woman in lagos who had been selling akara (beans cake) for a living, has been able to use this means to feed her children, pay their school fees (in good private schools), build her house and take care of herself. I asked my self how could this be? For me this is one of the most fascinating story i have ever heard. The woman said that she makes between fifteen thousand Naira to forty thousand Naira a day. How is this possible? if she makes let's say fifteen thousand Naira a day in a month she earns four hundred and fifty thousand Naira, that's the salary for an average oil company staff, she earns even higher than a banker. If she makes twenty thousand Naira a day in a month she earns six hundred thousand Naira, if she makes forty thousand Naira a day in one month she earns 1,200,000naira. Unbelieveable. There are a lot of incredible things happening in this country. If she makes that amount does she need to work for anybody? if you ask me i will say a big NO. Nobody is going to pay her that amount.

After listening to this story i am here to talk about the opportunities in this country. In spite of the corruption, the poverty, the fraud success sprouts out from corners one never sees.

I take my leave now. I am going to think of my life and the things i can do to make money. The insignificant things that are being over looked but very useful. I urge you to go and search for what you can do. Everybody has something insignificant that the creator has given, look for it and you will find it.

Please note this: " women are the best people to invest in".