Living With Your Husband In His Father's House/ Good or Bad

Hi everyone: thank you so much for your comments and suggestion as to what to do when one is bored. Anyways I have taken a few and I am trying to implement them. lol

Now to the topic of today, for the greater part of last night, a chat group almost ran down my battery with talks about women not being able to grow with a man any more. Almost all the men in the group were of the opinion that the woman of today just wants to get married to men who are rich, live in mansions and drive big cars... hmmmmm... Now is this true? Or are the men just being biased?

After a while the guys threw this question to the ladies... "will you live with your husband in a one room, in his father's house?"... Now this is where I draw the line. I can't live with a man in his father's house... even the Bible says " a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and they shall become one". I believe couples need a lot of privacy, especially in the beginning of their marriage, without the interference of in laws.

The story of the lady that killed her husband, in Port Harcourt, was caused by the lady's sister in law. The sister in law (i.e. the mans sister), loved to pry into her brother's business. The last straw was when the sister moved into her brother's house and guess where she slept every night? In the couple's room. On their bed. What rubbish?
The sad part of the story is that the man couldn't see the abnormality of his sitter sleeping in the same room as himself and his wife.

I am not saying that all in laws are bad, but I know one thing every couple in Nigeria needs a space of their own, no matter how little.

Do take care of yourself and have a lovely weekend.
Ciao

Long time/ boredom/ PHCN's unfulfilled promises/Sighs

Hi everyone, its seems as though I have been covering my face in shame for a while now. 

Not blogged, just been there. 

If you ask me what I have been doing I don't really know. 

Anyways as I came on line now my friend ZAINAB MUSA of zouzoumusing.blogspot.com, pushed me to blog. She even suggested I blog about boredom... loll so I will do just that.

About two days ago boredom nearly killed me, I will not lie. There wasn't any light as PHCN, has gradually forgotten about the citizens of Nigeria. I couldn't go to the cinema to watch a movie, cos Uncle (I hope you all remember who uncle is and why his name is now uncle), has told me that we are on a budget, so I just sat at home and gave in to the boredom.

My question: "are you ever bored? If yes please can you tell what you do when boredom sets in? Cos it was tragic for me..loll..

I called about 5 of my friends asking if I could come over to their houses, you know what, everyone was busy...(sobbing). 

Now back to PHCN... I asked a question: "whether Inverter (for those of us who know it) is a substitute for electricity, in Nigeria. For me, personally I detest inverter, cos I can only use lights and fans. The more appliances one uses the quicker the battery life drains. So why should I have it.  

Well what can I say I have an inverter, even though I don't like it, I put up with its rubbish. 

Enough of my lamentations, please let me know what's up with your lives? Anything interesting? Please gist me.

Lastly I will like to say happy birthday to my uncle, Uncle Gbilama, who was like a father to me. If he was alive I would have called him and wished him a very happy and prosperous birthday, but he has gone. He is still dear to my heart and I miss him so much. 

Ciao

Random Musings

Hello what's up?
Just wanted to say that the business meeting has been canceled and it's being rescheduled. Do bear with us.
Anyways I just decided to let you know how difficult it has been for me to achieve my goals.
First of all I have been fighting laziness, I just don't know what has come over me.
Secondly the almighty PHCN will not give us electricity at all, and when they do it's early hours of the morning.
Thirdly I am so slow. It takes me almost an hour to cut out my pieces.. Oh God I hope I get faster, cos at this rate I may be able to produce one bag in one week.....Sobbing
Anyways I have been able to post on my blog and I am editing my book. So that is a little consolation, if you ask me.
Will sign off now. Do take care and have a lovely day. Please don't forget to pray for Nigeria.

Ciao

Accountability

Hello everyone.. How r u?
I hope your weekend was lovely, I had a lovely one myself, even though the electricity situation has become terrible.
Anyways a couple of my friends and I were talking about accountability. We always say there are a lot of things we need to do, for our business, family etc, but we never get to do any of these things. So we decided to be accountable to each other. I have a dear friend on my back now:
I need to produce, two wallets,
Make sure whatever money that comes into my hands, no matter how little, invest it into my little business. Cos if you wait for the millions to before you start your business, it will never come.
I also have to put up at least one blog post for this week, which I just did. loll..
Lastly I will edit at least a chapter of my book.
On Friday my phone rings, checking up on me. I hope I achieve all that I have on my plate...

Anyways do take care of yourself and have a lovely day.

p.s. Please check out lindaikeji'blog,  Thursday, April 19, 2012: "Mortein's theme song for "World malaria day". Lyrics by Cohbams and Omawumi. I must say Omawumi has such a lovely voice.


Invite: Business meeting on Saturday the 28th of April.
Venue: Ice Cream Factory, opposite Law School, Victoria Island.
Time: 2pm.
What's the purpose of the meeting: It's a platform where women in business can come together and share their worries, fears, successes, business ethics etc with fellow women. It's a platform where women can be accountable to each other. Please if interested send me a message @ tmkamson@gmail.com, and I will get back to you.

Ciao.

Fantastic Friday night

Hello dears.
I had lamented about how boring my life had become... well I went to Mushin yesterday and it was the must beautiful experience I had ever had in a long time. I watched the market unfold before my eyes. It just dawned on me: every time we complain about the government not doing anything?
What have we done for ourselves, our little family, our community to make it better?... (Topic for another day)
Wow yesterday I realized that there a lot of talents in Nigeria, the sad part about it is that these talents are discovered when poverty comes to play. Why can't it be discovered when we are comfortable? ( I guess a little comfortability makes us a little bit lazy). Poverty begets creativity and talent.
So in this Mushin, there were men making shoes, working with leather(Italian, Spanish, faux, fur etc) you name it. LOL the sad part is that I saw all types of designer logo in the market, from Clarks to Manchester united, ( now this news is story for another day). But I must say that their work is fantastic. The new wave of development, money, riches, awareness is going to come from the creative mind. When there isn't any job, creativity kicks in and like the saying say: "man must chop".
I also realized that there are people in this same country of mine who make serious money legitimately. Interesting don't you think?

I leave you guys today to enjoy your weekend and make sure you have a lovely time.
Ciao

Hello!!!!

Hi every one.

How was your day? Hope good? Mine was boring.....(gist for another day).

I don't know why, but blogging has become very difficult for me: Not liking it one bit. Topics just slip through my head and I don't know what to blog about. Anyways let me just gist you a little about my boring life.

Finally, I will be going to Mushin tomorrow for a little shopping for my handbag making. I don't know what I will create or make, even though I have been working on getting my own unique designs. Will let you know my progress as I work. I have given myself a target, I hope I achieve it.

Secondly I am also working on the durability of my bags. I noticed that my big bags, which I want to sell for a small fortune (loll), isn't solid. In fact the handle comes off in less than two weeks of regular use, this is not good for business. So I have to work on it. At least a good leather bag should be around for a year without getting bad. Imagine a Louis Vitton bag getting ripped apart, after a short time, or a Channel bag?

Anyways its time to go back to bed. Will let you know how my day went tomorrow.

N/B: Sometimes you need to step outside, get some air, and remind yourself of who you are and who you want to be" author unknown.

Ciao.

Work Begins

Hello everyone.. What's happening?

For me same old story. Still trying to get on my feet but I am sure will get there soon. I just spotted someone who speaks french, I am shy to go and introduce myself, but let's see how the scene plays out. Will let you know what happened to my supposed new friend.

My greatest complain is the heat in Lagos. It is so hot I can't even begin to describe it. I don't understand how people still wear trouser or skirts suits and walk in this sun. I will throw the suit. loll. Or how mothers can wrap their babies up in layers of blankets.. Do you really want to kill that child?

For those of us who are writers please can you help me get out of re-editing my work over and over again? It's becoming frustrating, I don't know what I can do. Please I need advise...

Anyways do take care of yourself and have a lovely week.

Ciao